Not impressed

[Grabaspoon]

I am a live in nanny and do a lot of overnights etc as my boss has a job where they have to go away for a couple of nights here and there. There are also the occassional early starts.

I start work at 7.15 and am usually still slumbering at 7am and jump out of bed for 7.05. This morning as I lay in bed about 6.45am I could see headlights and realised my boss had gone to work - with DC stood on the doorstep waving - without telling me!!!

Now had she told me last night she had to leave early I would have had no problems, if she had sent DC to my room to knock I would have had no problem, if she had knocked I would have no problem, if she had shouted up the stairs I would have had no problem!! Can you see a pattern - if I'd been told I wouldn't have had any issues.

But now I'm p'd off and with her away until tomorrow night what do I do? what should I say to her tomorrow.

I can shower dress and grab a piece of toast in 15 mins, so maybe if grabaspoon has breakfast with the DCs it's possible.

Whether or not the Op is ready for work or not at 7:!5 isn't the issue here - presumably if her employer wasn't happy about the time she got up, she'd say so.

She is your employer though. Perhaps you could keep it light, saying something about her going early, and that you wouldn't have minded if she'd sent the children to wake you up, so you could look after them once she'd gone. How old are the children anyhow?

It's none of the employer's business what time the nanny wakes up so long as she's ready for work. You employ a nanny: you don't own her body and soul!

When I was a live in nanny starting at 7am I got up at 6.55... I had a bath the night before and ate breakfast when the baby had a morning nap. Working a 60h week with 4 children under 7 I made the most of any sleep I could get!

as long as the nanny is ready for work on time it is nobody's business what time she gets up.

Op - I would just perhaps make the point to your employer that you were concerned that her dd might have got out of the house given you weren't aware she was going out when she did.

Tbh I think it's not on for her to have gone out without first checking that you were up and that her children were thus supervised - esp as you say one was standing on the doorstep waving!

But I would also be a bit careful about posting too much detail on here as this is after all a parenting forum and you never know whether or not she comes here, and regardless of the fact I think you are in the right, complaining about your employer on a public internet forum might not go down well. iyswim.

How old are the children? Maybe mum thought she could let you have a little lie in and had left them to watch TV for half an hour until you got up. If they're too young to be trusted then it was very odd for her to go off without telling you.

I'd just mention it very casually when she gets back, along the lines of 'if you tell me when you need to leave early I'll make sure I'm down in time for handover' said in a cheery tone.

MyName she can get up whenever she likes as long as she is at work on time!

I am a live-in nanny as well and I don't get up until 20 min before I start working. I work a 60h week and study for a finance degree, so I make the most of my sleep.

I get up at 7 which gives me 15 minutes to get ready this may be a 5 minute shower if needed - sometimes I will shower later if going to the gym whilst DC is at funded nursery sessions but I tend to shower just before bed. I am usually downstairs by 7.10/7.12 and start work at 7.15 my boss leaves around 7.20. I eat breakfast when I start work with DC or at the table whilst DC plays (it only takes 5 minutes to eat a piece of toat)

I am never late for work and am usually 5 minutes early. In the bussiness world your boss wouldn't stay start work at 9 am but actually expect you to be present and doing your job 25 minutes early without warning would they?

none of boss's business what time her nanny gets up or even goes to bed as long as she is ready and fit for work at her CONTRACTED time

i would mention something about mb leaving early - if you are not on duty and dont know you are meant to be then you could go out for an early am jog/gym/walk to get a paper etc and children be left home alone - this would not be your fault, but can you imagine the outcries that would happen

nanny left children on their own ................

This used to happen in my job. I remember going out for a run in the morning and passing DB driving down the road for work. A few minuets later MB ran past me on her morning run. They had no problem with going out and assuming I was in.

Has it happened before? Could your MB have had an emergency at work (ie rushed in early) and not wanted to disturb you or something like that?

agree with most people about it beeing none of the emloyers business what time the nanny gets up. besides, not everyone wants or needs to shower and eat in the morning.