does anyone else think this is odd ?

[bengalcat]

Last week my child who is 11 forgot her password for her email account which she had recently changed . We went through the providers steps for password recovery which included questions like when was the account opened etc .... neither of us were sure about that one . The upshot was we couldn't recover the password although the provider gave me a clue as to the identity of the account linked to password recovery eg r @ y.co.uk . I worked out this was a yahoo account ... I've never had an account with yahoo . Emailed the ex just to check if it was one of his .... it wasn't but he straightaway said was it our old nanny whose surname began with an r . She left three years ago . Turns out it was .

Not only was child put out by the fact she couldn't access her email but was rather freaked out by the nanny using her own personal email as a linked account for password recovery and not myself or ex .

She has a new email account now linked to mine as recovery , although I think she'll be very careful in future not to forget her password , so its all sorted . Have closed the old one and transferred all contacts across etc .

Child found it freaky . I find it a bit weird too . Am I overreacting ?

Did your dd forget her password over three years ago, and tour nanny had to assist in retrieval then? Or did your nanny set up your dd's email account amd simply used hers for convenience? Doesn't seem all that weird to me, unless nanny has been reading dd's email since she left.

Yes, I think you are overreacting. Maybe the nanny helped your DD set up the account.

it doesn't seem weird at all

she helped DD set it up and probably didn't even think her address would ever be used

was your nanny a freaky stalker type? If not, can't see why you would find it fraky or weird

Presuming that the nanny was with her at the time to set up the account. During setup you need to have another email address for recovery and I guess the nanny added her own. Its unlikely to be needed again unless, in your circumstance, the password is forgotton.
I don't find anything weird about this.
Maybe the child forgot about who was helping her set up the account. £ child years are very long ago! I donno. But can't see the problem.

I don't think that's weird at all.

If she was helping the child set up the account, couldn't remember yours off the top of her head, she probably just put hers in assuming it would never be needed. I don't get why any of you are "freaked" by it, she probably forgot about it within an hour of setting up your child's account.

I don't see why it is odd either. I would guess that the nanny originally set up the account?

Having a linked account for password recovery doesn't mean the nanny had any access to your DD's account - though actually she probably helped choose the password if setting up the account in the first place.

It's not in the slightest bit weird to me. She probably had hers more readily to hand when she helped your DD set it up over three years ago. Your DD would have been 8 then, maybe younger - most 11 year olds can't remember what they had for breakfast never mind who helped them set up an email account when they were 8!