How do I split nanny share pay with new baby?

[sheepburn]

Hi (first time poster here!)
I am currently in a 4 day share with one other family (my DD is 2 and other family's DS is 2). I am currently on maternity leave and return to work in May and would like to include my new DS to the share (he will be 9 months).

Mum of other family thinks costs should be 1/3 paid by her and 2/3 paid by me as I now have 2 children in the share. This does not seem right. We plan to rotate share at both houses as we do at the moment.

What are others experiences here so I can share with other family (nanny is paid £11 per hour net for share).

Thanks

My point was that I think they should pay the same. I did a nanny share a few years ago one had three children and the other family had two they paid the same. They are paying a nanny not a CM.

If I can summarise for the Original Poster (sorry sheepburn, as a newcomer to Mumsnet what must you think of us all???)

Lots of opinions here about what is and isn't fair, seemingly split between 'only 50:50 is fair' and 'only 66:33 is fair'.

But there are only 3 direct answers with relevant personal experience:
Lily311 (nanny) 66:33
BahamasPrincess (parent) 66:33
Redglow (nanny 'a few years ago') 50:50

Note that both BahamasPrincess and Lily311 are giving/had a payrise so in those circumstances 50:50 of the new salary would have left the other family paying more than before.

If I can summarise for the Original Poster (sorry sheepburn, as a newcomer to Mumsnet what must you think of us all???)

Lots of opinions here about what is and isn't fair, seemingly split between 'only 50:50 is fair' and 'only 66:33 is fair'.

But there are only 3 direct answers with relevant personal experience:
Lily311 (nanny) 66:33
BahamasPrincess (parent) 66:33
Redglow (nanny 'a few years ago' in a pre-existing 3+2 child situation so not directly comparable) 50:50

Note that both BahamasPrincess and Lily311 are giving/had a payrise so in those circumstances 50:50 of the new salary would have left the other family paying more than before.

Didn't realise we had to give personal experience I did an existing 2:1 share (in 2007(?)) as temp cover and the families split 50/50 but it was based at the house of the family with more children. That was the arrangement for the existing nanny too.

Thanks very much for all the replies and views. Nanny mentioned yesterday that she's expecting a pay increase when my DS joins share. Based on comments and suggestions here, I think we'll meet somewhere in the middle, where I'll pick up more than half but perhaps not 2/3 as we may be better off with our own nanny!

I was part of a nanny share and had 2 DC, the other family had 1 DC. We split 50/50 but the share was at our house, but that was due to their house not being large enough for 3 children. They actually offered to pay a slightly higher rate to make up for the wear and tear but I said no because convenience more than made up for it for me.

What happens if one of the 2 DC go to nursery or school for a few hours? Does it revert to 50/50 for just those hours? It just gets all silly at that point.

I think a 50/50, or at a push 60/40, is the way to go.

This is my second nannyshare where I look after 3 children. The first one was 1/3 and 2/3 basis as well, so is this one. As a nanny I don't mind how my salary is made up, who pays how much as long as I get the amount my contract says. Do I find it fair that one family pays 2/3 and the other 1/3? Absolutely. The family with 2 children still save money as their part of net is lower than the current rate for one nanny and they also save on tax and NI. Obviously it's more beneficial for the family with one child.

As for when the children are in nursery: no, the pay is still 1/3 and 2/3. The children (2 oldest) are in nursery only 3 hours a day (in my case) and that doesn't mean that I'm not in charge of all, I am on call within those hours and I have to work in half terms and when they are sick as well. I use the hours to cook their lunch/dinners, set up washing machine, run errants for both families, etc. I don't really have 3 hours with the younger child only as by the time I finish the school run and do the above things I hardly have half an hour play with the little one.

The new child will probably take up more attention tbh so you definitely need to pay the extra to the nanny as a minimum.

I agree - I think nanny share does not necessarily involve a split based on number of children from each family - and that in practice, it may turn out to be 50/50 split.
I like this blog on nanny share which also talks about whose home is used for hosting the nanny share - which can also affect the cost split - nannyandmeblog.blogspot.com/2014/10/everything-you-need-to-know-about-nanny.html
You can also use these FAQs as a guiding point: www.angelnannyshare.co.uk/faqs

Damn I nearly replied to this thread and then realised it's nearly 7 years old!!

But in case anyone is interested. I nanny share and when I had a family with 2 kids and a family with 1. They did a 2/3 split vs. 1/3 split which in my opinion is the fairest.

The nannies job will of course get harder when a third child joins the mix. Two 2 year olds would be far easier than two 2 year olds and a baby. So realistically, a small pay rise might be a nice gesture.

As for splitting the bill, I think 1/3:2/3 is right. The share operated from the two houses evenly, so both are paying in the same for wear and tear and heating and both presumably getting similar amounts of chores done (beds made/children’s washing/dinners in the freezer type nanny duties), but one family will be getting the nannies attention for 1 third of the time, the other will be getting 2 thirds of the time (and that doesn’t take into account that a baby may well be more time consuming than a 2-3 year old.