mum leaves the monitor on while Im with the baby

[tatalondon]

I have started a new job 5 weeks ago.Its 5 h a day ,temporary and will be permanent ,full time next year.
I really love the little boy but his mum makes it not easy looking after him.
For example,Im not allowed to put on him a warmer jacket,cardi when its cold outside(scared of overheating),but when I take out a thinner jacket she would put it back and have the warmer one.she gets angry if I dont immediately answer her calls.(she is at home at the moment),keep asking hundred times a day where we went,wants me to keep my phone with me all the time in the house in case she textes me.(when we both there),if I pick the baby up from the playmat to have a cuddle or play with him she tells to put him down.If I plan sth for the day,she never agrees.Basicly is nth good enough what Im doing.
Lately I noticed in the morning that when Im with the baby she leaves the baby monitor on(with video).Im really not confident with it!
Also Im asking for weeks to have my contract for next year.Nth so far,she still havent checked the tax etc
I have been a nanny for 13 years,have plenty of experience and qualifications,excellent references.I just feel there is no respect to my person and my experience at all.
Shall I leave?I dont see much point of talking to her ,as she doesnt listen to other opinions.

It can sometimes be really hard to let go of your most treasured possession.

Let her now how you are feeling and ask her how she is feeling about your performance in your role.

You may decide that its better to cut your losses and find another role.

It is difficult for a new mother to leave their young baby (I assume it's a young baby, you haven't said how old he is). But it does sound as if she is over the top. I couldn't even begin to imagine how difficult she would be when she does have to leave the house to go to work.

If she's not even trying to listen to you, then I'm not sure it will work. TBH sometimes only having several nannies in a row quitting on you will make a motherboss realise they are being unrealistic and overbearing.

If you're not happy, look for other work. It might get better, but probably not sufficiently better to make you happy.

This is way over the top.

I left DS with his nanny from 12 months old. It was bloody hard but I trusted her. If I'm at home when she's working, I stay out of sight and leave her to it because I'm paying her to look after him.

Honestly - I'd leave!

she sounds like she is trying to stay in control of care and cant bear for you to make the slightest decision, she may be a total control freak in life or just way over the top with her baby.

i think its worth a serious, 'if you dont listen to me and meet my concerns and change them I am leaving' conversation as she may be totally wrapped up in this bvehaviour and hasnt realised how much this is impossible for you to work with.

if she doesnt acknowledge or change then you know you have no choice but to leave.
incidentally she must be doing a crap job of work if she is so involved in what you are doing.

You do really need to sit down and have a chat with her. Point out that she's hired you as a professional and she needs to let you do your job or you won't feel confident and she won't feel confident when it comes for you to be in sole charge full time with her out of the way.

Do accept that you're not necessarily doing everything as she would and reassure her that you have the little one's safety and comfort in mind at all times and babies can feel comfortable with carers doing things in different ways.

In terms of the monitor I'd be inclined to play for a while and then in a very cheerful voice say 'oh dear mummy left the monitor on, let's switch it off, shall we?' Act like it's a mistake rather than checking up on you.

The contract really does need sorting though.

speak to her, but my instinct is to look for new job, especially if you are eperience and used to freedom and trust