Urgent help needed with letter.

[BiscuitCrumbs]

Hi Mum's (& dad's),

I've got me drawers in a bit of a tangle and would greatly appreciate any advice. I'm having to terminate the contract with my CM, things over the past few weeks just haven't felt right to me: her T&C pertaining to her contract, she's lied to me, she's been quite down with my LO etc. I've always considered my CM a very close friend (friends & business definitely don't mix, I have now discovered). I now think it's a necessity to terminate the contract as I feel things are becoming more strained and stressful as each day passes. My CM / friend is quite opinionated and I always find that it's 'her way, or not way at all' attitude, I know she'll try and get me to 'reconsider' things, she always turns it around to make herself look good and me to look bad.

Just wondering what the hell do I put in this darned letter to her - I've to give 4 weeks notice, but want to take my LO out of childcare immediately.

Sorry if none of this makes any sense - my poor head is about to combust

Thanks xx

Hiya, I am a childminder.

When you say she has lied to you what do you mean?

In your letter you can either say something like;

Dear x

This is a letter giving 4 weeks notice to terminate our contract however would like to withdraw x from you setting with immediate effect.

I feel that the arrangement is not working out and want to try other options of childcare

Or here you can put we have had a change in circumstances which means we no longer need childcare.

Whichever you feel will work best.

Please do be aware that as you are withdrawing immediately you will need to pay the 4 weeks notice.

Hth

Thank you MPM- everything IMO is just a complete mess, without giving too much away, I found out she lied to me about something really important - I've been in a bit of a state over this for 2 weeks now and it's like a pendulum effect in my head re: terminating the contract. I have other outstanding circumstances which my CM / friend is aware of my DH passing away quite a few months ago - she's been a great help and a good friend - I guess that's what's tearing me up inside - I have tried to discuss these issues with her - but she's always turned it around to make me look like the one at fault...its having a profound detrimental effect on me and I'm just not sure I can possibly deal with any more stress. Thank you so much for your advice about the letter - I thought that I would have to pay 4 weeks notice - but don't mind so much as it will be a weight off my mind not having to deal with yet another issue.

Dear Childminder
Unfortunatly, Due to unforseen circumstances, I am giveing you 4 weeks notice as per our contract, however I will be withdrawing xxxx with immediate effect but notice period of course still stands.
This will be effective from xxxx date, and my contract with yourself will therefore end xxxx date
BuiscuitCrumbs

I personally wouldnt tell your giving notice because things arnt working out, that might just make her a bit defensive/argumentative she might try to back you down?
and certainly dont think you need to give a reason to why your terminating the contract.

op how did you get on?

op how did you get on?

Hi MPM - my apologies for my tardiness (has been rather hectic since last week) update is: handed CM /now possible ex friend my letter of termination, she made a slight comment , which I knew she would do - again I was the one being unreasonable and tried to make me feel and look bad (which of course I did, initially), CM not pleased at all...but she tried to act all casual about it, as if it wasn't any big deal .

Seen another new CM that came highly recommended via my H/V - took DD along to meet and DD settled in within 2 mins of being at new CM's abode...hurrah! I asked new CM a million and one question Spanish inquisition and she didn't mind in the slightest, nor bat an eyelid at any of my questions - completely unflappable. DD went there on Friday I know it's been only the 1 day at new CM, but I have noticed a huge difference in DD demeanor -lots happier, playful, chatty etc - I used to dread weekends as I knew that DD would be grumpy - however this weekend DD was literally a completely different little girl - I hope it's not wishful thinking - but I honest think ex CM was quite down with my DD.

Anyway not going to look back on the past - as long as my little angel is ok, happy etc then I'm happy.

Thanks again for the helpful advice - ones drawers are now untangled! xx

Well done! So glad your DD is happy.

So sorry that you have lost a friend over it, but that can sometimes be the sad result when mixing children and friends. (I've just lost a friend because she went ridiculously overboard over difficulties at school between our DSs!).