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Mindee won't eat mum's brought in food here

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sandym3g · 17/11/2011 23:37

I've been looking after a child since she was 9 months. Even though we have offered to provide food for her she comes with food from home. Now I haven't had a problem with her eating here before but this week is different somehow. She point blank refuses to eat what is before her unless it's something like yoghurt. Now she will be sometimes fussy at home but is mostly fussy here. She turns her head and says no. She's not into negotiation or airplane games. I'm worried that parents will think I'm not feeding her as she often wolfs it down when she gets home. She's 23 months old. I thought maybe it's cos she see's the other children eating something different to her or that there is too much going on around her at first. But even when she is the only one at the table with nobody else about she won't eat. She is drinking though.

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MaryPoppinsMagic · 18/11/2011 09:48

Must be the age, my dd does this.

She won't eat out of her own bowl but will eat the exact same thing off my plate, may be worth putting half in her bowl and half infront of you to 'trick' into eating it.

I think they go through these phases of being awkward. Hopeful it will get better

MaryPoppinsMagic · 18/11/2011 09:48

Must be the age, my dd does this.

She won't eat out of her own bowl but will eat the exact same thing off my plate, may be worth putting half in her bowl and half infront of you to 'trick' into eating it.

I think they go through these phases of being awkward. Hopeful it will get better

maggi · 18/11/2011 16:46

If it is just a week- does she have a bug?
Best bet is to pretend you have not noticed, give her a time limit, say 20mins (or whilst everyone else is still eating), and if she has not begun tucking in say "It's time to finish lunch. Have you finished?" If she says she has finished just remove the food and try not to even give a hint of disapproval in your face or actions. Let her off the table. DONT FEED HER ANYTHING ELSE until it is time for everyone's next meal/snack. Don't make a fuss of any kind or you are teaching her that being fussy with food will get her lots of your one to one attention. Children won't care if the attention is negative, they will be revelling in the half hour of your time.

Iggly · 22/11/2011 17:52

Can you leave her to it for a bit? I find if I get up and do other stuff while DS is/isn't eating, he'll have a go himself.

BertieBotts · 22/11/2011 17:56

Could you discuss it with the parents and offer to try the food the rest of them are having as a solution to the problem? Is there a particular reason, allergy or religious diet or something why she can't have what the others are having?

thebody · 22/11/2011 21:53

be honest and tell parents exactly what is going on.

she isnt your child so you can only do your best and then report outcomes to parents.

just a tip though, food really shouldnt be that importnat to toddlers at all, its normal to be trying to persuade them to eat and its actually healthy in the long run.

i am a cm (4 years) and a mum(22 years oldest, youngest 10) and can now actually pick out the toddlers in my setting who will have a possible weight issue in later years, its the ones who constantly ask you whats for dinner and say 'i am hungry' after a good meal..
my 4 were nightmare eaters and lived on milk and fresh air, now all slim adults/teens, friends who had 'good eaters' as toddlers are now fat adults.

dont worry

sandym3g · 24/11/2011 22:56

Had a better week this week with the feeding. The best being today. I think it helped that others were there eating at the table this time. Snack she wasn't interested in though. She has been drinking so I'm not too concerned. She tends to eat well at home as well.

I'm a cm for just over a year now. Mum to 3 girls oldest 22 also and youngest 14. I didn't really have this with them when they were younger. It's nice to see older cm's like me on here :)

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thebody · 27/11/2011 19:43

lol sorry not teaching you to suck eggs!! nice to talk to you too, lets say we had older ones young!!!!

sandym3g · 27/11/2011 19:49

Well I know that to be true for me I was 19 when I had my first :)

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thebody · 28/11/2011 11:18

u beat me to it by a year, I was 20...so yes we still young(ish)

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