should i tell boss about possible inpending bereavement

[fabbyuncle]

My darling Uncle has end stage cancer....probably won't see Xmas

Should I tell MB/DB about it?

My heads mixed up right now and I'm worrying about things like this
Tia

Depends on the relationship you have with MB/DB with my current employer I would tell her in a past job then no.

It also depends on whether you will need time off/if you will struggle with the stress and looking after the children etc.

:)

As a mum, I would want you to tell me. Our nanny's dad has had major surgery recently and is in hospital, and I am glad that she told me as I am far more aware of how this is impacting on her and the rest of her family emotionally, and also the need to visit him in hospital around certain times. It allows you to be more compassionate and considerate (I think we are these things already, but we want to be even kinder to our nany when she has all this to deal with).

And when the wrotsy happens, you will need time off. your MB/DB may want to make sure they have enough holiday/days in lieu to cover your bereavement time, or speak to thir employer about taking unpaid days. Or make other arrangements. It understandably isn't your priority, and its not your problem at all, but as a mum, I would appreciate being able to consider this in advance. It would be different if there was a very sudden loss/accident that nobody could predict, but in your situation, when you know that there will be sad news, it would be really helpful to have some warning of it.

I am sorry for your situation.

wrotsy = worst.

I'm not a nanny and I don't employ one but my I think you should tell them. I am a teacher. When my step mother had end stage cancer I spoke to the head and she agreed I could have time off if I needed it. It meant when my step mother died I, all I had to do was just say it had happened rather than going into full details at that time.

Agree with Happy. I have a fab nanny. I know her granddad is very ill at the moment so DH and I are getting home earlier whenever remotely possible to let her get out to visit him, I'm keeping holiday in case she needs a few days etc.

I'm glad she told me. It means I can understand and help wherever possible and makes my life much easier to plan.