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Thinking about getting a mother's help but am rather clueless - advice please

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Freezingmyarseoff · 02/11/2011 00:02

We're having DC2 in January and I think I may need some help for the first weeks/months as I am having an ELCS. I'm worried about overdoing it in the those first few weeks of recovery, and also about the lack of sleep as I'm unlikely to be able to nap when the baby naps. DD will be 3 when the next one comes along btw.

I would like someone to help out round the home, bit of hoovering, ironing, washing, help preparing some meals, possibly some food shopping, but also someone happy to occasionally entertain DD or take her to the park if necessary. To me this sounds like a mother's help rather than a part-time nanny. Does that sound right?

But I am clueless as to where to begin looking for someone, how much to pay them, if we need a contract for them (assuming I would), what is reasonable to ask them to do etc.

Anyone who is/has been a mother's help, or used a mother's help can you offer any advice or share your experiences? Is it better to advertise privately or go via an agency? Best places to look? How long did you have help for, how many hours a day?

If it's relevant, we're based in the South East.

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Freezingmyarseoff · 02/11/2011 19:56

Shameless bump.... Smile

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planetpotty · 02/11/2011 20:14

Sounds like a mothers help to me Smile

How about gumtree?

frazmum · 02/11/2011 20:15

We got someone in to help when DC4 was born. She did light housework, laundry, tidying, messages down the road and taking DS3 to the park. Also looked after baby when I wanted a shower or to do something with DS (older two were at school). She worked 3 days a week and it was fantastic. Started a week before my due date to get used to everything.

I just advertised for a Mother's Help on Gumtree (was living in London at the time) and got references. The guidance with a Mother's Help is that they are not sole charge like a nanny. Was 6 years ago and can't remember her rate sorry. Hope this helps.

hayleysd · 02/11/2011 20:44

Try www.childcare.co.uk too there are mothers helps on there.

jendifa · 04/11/2011 09:06

What about an au pair?

Freezingmyarseoff · 05/11/2011 16:57

Thanks for all the tips everyone. I think I'll try gumtree and some local papers and local shop windows.

If anyone knows what the going rate for a mother's help please shout.

We don't want an aupair because we don't want a live-in person.

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