2 year old put in corner for 10 minutes. Right or wrong?

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Was 2 in July. Pulled the hair of chilminders own child (aged 3). Was asked to go to the corner and say sorry. Made a noise to chilminder instead. Prompted many times to say sorry and remained there for 10 minutes until he said sorry.

Right or wrong?

I think it's wrong and a childminder should know this.

At DDs nursery they had a time out chair used for violent or aggressive behaviour which would include hair pulling I guess but:

-they didn't use it until they were 3
-they had an egg timer so only stayed there for 3 minutes max
-they didn't have to say sorry, but this was encouraged

I would expect any childminder to understand how time out works TBH.

:) In that case Christina we're not disagreeing - as thats all I'd do. I generally ask them to give a hug (or stroke) to make the injured party feel better and model saying sorry too.

I can see why someone following the supernanny plan would keep putting them back until they can apologise, but agree that would be more suitable for an older child.

[wonders how I ended up 'arguing' with someone when we'd do the same thing? :)]

ok be flayed for this but as i understand the situation..

stroppy toddler acted as stroppy toddlers do

toddler tried to assert her authority and wouldnt say sorry

cm dealt with this as children have to ultimatly understand right from wrong dont they????(child wasnt mortally injured just sat in the corner ffs)

toddler apologised.

situation resolved

mum complains... tbh dont get it...

still i am always amazed at the school run when mums and dads ask a child to do something and the child ignores them and parent laughs and shrugs..

amazing

The thing is most people are reading the situation that the toddler was put in a corner facing the wall and left for 10 mins.

I read it that he was asked to go into a corner and repeatedly over a 10 minute period asked to apologise, wasn't ignored or left alone, which are 2 very different things.

Oh good leeloo :) I like the hug/stroke thing too

At my nursery I had a 'thinking chair' (I dont 'do' naughty chairs/steps/squares) and if a child had hurt another child or was generally having a bit of a tantrum they would be guided to sit in the chair either alone or on my knee and we would have a cuddle and a chat look at what was going on in the room who was playing nicely,who was wearing red shoes,whether the fat blackbird was in the garden,how the fish were swimming anything anything anything then when the child was calm we would set about putting things right making friends with the child he/she was cross with,hugs if appropriate or finding another friend to play with - sometimes even sitting together looking at a book.

I dont believe that 2 year olds understand actions and consequences I know some posters have said their dc definitely does but its not something I have seen- so really lots of continued reminders for example Harry might be a biter so youd continually tell him how lovely he was playing and how clever he is to remember we dont like biting at nursery etc - a positive approach to a negative action.