Childminders club: Same child different problem

[jellyjelly]

Despite the crisis conversation about turning up on time (8am) or calling, text or dropping a note through the door if not attending, well yesterday they didnt arrive.

Today child arrived at just after 730(which i wont be paid for), do you think i should just ask if they will be bringing him this time everyday, tell them it is 8am start or let it slide. This is the time when i get my own ready for the day and spend some one on one time, which he misses out on the rest of the day and the time i get ready aswell.

Thanks

Have had another chat following the formal meeting with the education people to tell them that it is unacceptable to bring child at 730 not know about if the child has had breakfast and about him being ill.

Well this morning he turned uop saying i should give child the medicine this morning but didnt know when to give it or when child had last had it. I am at my wits end, i think i have deceided to give notice as the potential to make an error seems far to high but i have since found out this morning that the dad has special needs - would this be classed as discrimination as he just does not understand what i need to know but the mum does. What can i do?

Following on from this, i have just given notice and the parents (mum especially) turned nasty on me calling me a f>>>>ng b!>>h and why didnt i saw before on my doorstep for all to see. Getting so annoyed at this. I am really angry now.

Well if they decide they still want you for the 4 weeks, I think you may be in your right the end it sooner if they are being abusive????? - that's awful!

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I have just called the legal guardian and told them that they are not coming back on my property at all becasue i feel really threathend and insulted. She understood and made me feel better but i am shaking and expecting a brick through the window.

Oh mate, I feel for you - how dare they behave like this - you've given loads of chances!!! If ANYTHING else happens and I mean ANYTHING Jelly, call the police and tell them you look after children and can't have this!!!

Poor you!

thankyou cant wait for dh to get back and give me a hug, i am so annoyed more so because i cant get hold of ncma legal. I dont care if i cant drop them immediately i think because they have been abusive and made me feel threathned i am justified in end immediately. Excuse spelling i am worse than normal!

Hope dp is home soon for you! When are NCMA next open? If not til Monday, maybe you could do a seperate post on here to see if any of the long standing childminders have any experience of this?? Do you have a support childminder? If not, maybe I could ask mine for you?

If you can ask yours that would be great, have told them not to come back. ncma not returning calls even though they are open till 7pm tonight.

isn't the ncma legal helpline open 24 hours a day, i remeber calling it late at night when i had a problem with one of the parents who didn't pay.

i am sure that you are within your rights to ask them not to come back again, as they have been abusive or what if they still want to use the notice period, how about the dad or legal guardian dropping off and picking up. the only issue would be about money, they would only have to pay upi to the last day that you had the child so if any money was paid in advance would need to be given back.
hope it all goes well, you never know maybe they will calm down and apologise.

ah see its till 7 now! i'm sure it used to be 24 hours.

This girl does not know how to apologise, she has repeatedly not turnedup and not bothered to tell me. It was my payday today for all of december and as it is a month in advance i am keeping it and the deposit.

As far as I am concerned, the minute someone becomes that verbally abusive and threatening, that is the end of the contract. You have a duty to protect all the other children in your care, as well as your own, and you do not have to accept this.

I would contact the education? welfare? person who deals with them as soon as you can.

I also think that you are well within your rights not to extend them the courtesy of a notice period.

Well, that's my opinion anyway (oooh, I am getting assertive) ... have you been able to speak to the NCMA?

I cant get hold of them, spoke to the education officer and they are not pleased nor is the girl's mil (who is the guardian). I will wait for a call, it does make it difficult as they live very close to me. (And i have to admit to dh that he was/is right about not taking them on- he didnt want me to take them on ).

vickyyumyum why do you think the money has to be given back?

will email my support minder and let you know!

thanks,