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What's That?
jellyjelly · 16/11/2005 15:40
Please tell me the answer why some children will ask a question when they know the answer already.
I wear a heart necklace and the child has said heart necklace then followed by what's that? when he know what it is, this is on lots of questions. Every week without fail.
Why and yes i always give him the same answer.
HellyBelly · 16/11/2005 15:59
Jelly - how old? It's very common for toddlers to ask things when they know the answer because they want you to ask so they can show how clever they are with their answer iyswim.
For example....
'where's daddy?' rather than say 'at work', if you say 'where's daddy?' back to them, they quite often say 'at work' with a little smile on their face.
I don't know if this is what you mean but I find this is very common.
HellyBelly · 16/11/2005 16:23
My current mindee constantly says 'I love you Helen' and I say 'I love you too xxx' and she says 'I love you too xxx' and it goes on and on. My ds says it all the time too and we say the same and he really doesn't seem to mind - he just says 'I love you xxx' to her and she says it back so it's all ok. Think he knows the difference though as I can't give the kisses and cuddles to a mindee with the same meaning as I do my own ds.
As for answers Jelly, if there is only one answer, I give that but if there are different ways of putting it without it being confusing, I do that too.
IMO it's important to answer these questions (as annoying as it can be if it's all day long) as this is how they learn things.
HTH
jellyjelly · 16/11/2005 16:29
I done this on the course and the examply was
Why does daddy go to work
To earn money
why
to buy you things
buy why
because he loves you
why
because he does
why
JUST BECAUSES HE DOES NOW LEAVE ME ALONE
They were saying that the child gets confused but the answer and wants it all explained in one sentance such as
Wheres Daddy
He has gone to work so we can live in this nice house and have lots of nice presents and things because he loves us and he will be back after dinner or bed or bathtime. It makes them feel secure that you are not changing our answers all the time same way why going to bed at the same time each night works for them.
Give it a go.
mum2akebk · 17/11/2005 18:07
I look after a 2 and a half year old and everything I say, she replies 'what'! I'm sure I can remember my own going through this stage when they were younger, but it can be a bit frustrating! I don't think there is anything wrong with her hearing as I have whispered something that she would be interested in hearing and she doesn't have any problem then. Oh well will just carry on repeating everything at least ten times!
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