Same child new problem

[jellyjelly]

Same child with the eating and stomach problems.

Basically goverment pays her childcare whilst she is in school and she has to attend its the law but the gov doesnt have to pay her childcare.

Anyway they come 4 days a week and i have a school run so have to leave at 830 each morning.

Monday they didnt turn up or call me at all so i left to do my daytime activities.

Tueday they came early

Thursday they were 2 mins before i was due to leave
Friday they didnt call and i got a call from the learning officer at 6pm.

Today they didnt turn up again with no call and they dad couldnt be bothered to come down the 20 houses and tellme.

Now we have scheduled a meeting and i am not sure if i should threaten to give notice as they could lose their funding.

I saw them tonight and they didnt apologise or anything just that i should blame the dad for not turning up as he went to sleep whilst looking after the kid.

I dont know what to do now, seem to be in a stuck situation.

thanks

ps this is not the first time they have mucked me around.

At the meeting you need to discuss how important it is that she arrives on time and make it a condition of remaining at your setting

Is anyone else attending your meeting?
Network co-ordinator, social worker?

I have told them as has the coordinator that he has to bring down said child at correct time or tell me or post a letter through the door if they are not coming.

Have also explained that i pay from groups and make good food for child before each setting which ten get wasted etc.

Their guardians and the coordinator will be their also.

So you have warned them

I don't think you have much choice then

Do you need the money - or would you rather not have the hassle?

I do need the money as it is a full time space used, have given them lots of warnings but dont know if i have been strict enough. They know that they will lose the space.

What about writing down the situation

Making her sign (again I know)

Final written warning (maybe?)

not much help

I know that the child ould have to go back to mil which wouldnt be such a good situation (lots of children, thats all) but i dont want to give up on her but i also dont want to land them in it.

Hang on are you a social worker?

Or a professional competant entreprenure (sp)?

You have to do what's right for you

Not for her or her child

hi jellyjelly
a parent gave me notice end of october,paid me 4 weeks notice,came back for 3 days at beginning of november and said on the friday she would ring and let me know when her next shift was. guess what? i'm still waiting to hear,phoned her numerous times so i could make plans for activities,no response so i just go out every day anyway.i know it's not the same situation but the not letting you know whats going on drives you crazy doesn't it??

Thankyou, i dont know why but i feel guilty (have always felt guilt)even though i have done nothing wrong. It might be because they are in an awful situation and i like helping.

It seems that the last few children/parents have been a mare. Perhaps i might only take children that are good sleepers/eaters.

do you mind if i ask how long u have been minding jellyjelly?

Since the begining of the year. I dont mind you asking but why?

i have been minding for about 10 years and i used to feel awful if things didn't go right.i always felt desperatly sorry for the kids(not good home life etc).but you have to realise (as i did) that you can't take on the whole worlds problems,so please don't feel guilty

SO true - I'm only just learning that

thankyou, it always makes me feel better to talk to others and that i am not being a cow!

you are doing your best in a really difficult situation,i have been there and done that.it sounds like i'm being hard faced i know but these kids are not your problem,your job is to provide quality care and not to be a surrogate parent

Thanks again, i have my own littleone to mother. I think next time i want to get involved with a project i might think twice.

Will have the meeting and tell them if they give me anymore jip i will be issuing notice.

have you asked your development officer to attend meeting with you? some back up might be good. how old is your lo?

ds is 2 1/2 and yes she will be there to discuss as she is not happy

glad you'll have some support at the meeting.be interesting to see how you get on.good luck

Good luck Jelly, when's the meeting? I'd still do what I said about the vacancies with CIS just so the calls keep coming - just as a backup in case you do give notice!

H x

p.s. did your page yesterday - will email you later, just off out now.

The meeting is tomorrow evening with all of them. I have also started to readvertise with cis and thanks for the page.

Had the child todayand he didnt have breakfast this morning but at least i was toldabout it when questioning. Still didnt get an apology about it though.

Good luck tonite