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Ds1 suddenly unsettled when being dropped at CMs

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Ballyxxx · 11/05/2011 17:09

Hi There,

My ds1 (2.5 yrs) has been with his CM for nearly as year now. He has always loved going, it is just part time. He settled in really well and we never really had tears until now. Everytime dp or I drop him off he is inconsolable. He clings onto us and wont go to CM. IT is so unlike him, he never cries when i leave him with friends or his grannies.

ITs happened 3 times now, do you think it is just a phase??

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BradfordMum · 11/05/2011 17:18

I have a little girl, same age who is just the same.
As soon as her mum closes the front door, the tears stop and she starts playing.
I told this to her mum, who once pretended to go, then. Snuck back in, only to see LO playing and chatting happily away!

It happens, kiddies push their parents buttons all the time!

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Ballyxxx · 11/05/2011 17:35

Thanks, i just wanted to check! Ifelt so bad, like i was letting him down leaving him but CM said he was fine after 5 mins. Hopefully this phase will end soon!

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rookiemater · 11/05/2011 17:39

Hi Ballyxxx, DS not at his childminders anymore as he has started pre school, but he was the same, loved it until he hit about 3 but then just didn't like going there anymore. What other children are there, are any the same age or older than him? It may be that he might enjoy mixing for a little while with some children the same age so could see if CM was able to take him to any groups or tumble tots or similar.

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Ballyxxx · 11/05/2011 17:49

There are 3 other kids there so i dont think it is that. Im really happy with CM..I think it is just a phase. she rang me 5 mins after i left and could hear him in the background chatting away. I just feel terrible leaving him when he needs me :( I feel like a terrible mother letting him down but then again if i took him home, hed do it every week and id never get to work!

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thebody · 11/05/2011 18:23

hi Bally, honest just a phase. I am cm and have had this with children who really love to come...

i always send a picture of the child to mum who generally is chatting happily as soon as the door closes, its hard for you but for him its just show boating... honest..

you are a great mum, if you took him home or changed his routine in any way then you would send him the message that he is in charge and you are his puppet..

carry on smiling, lots of cuddles and then simply go.. cm will be used to this..

dont worry .. soon be a sulky teen!!!! oooerrr

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