Disapline - CM advice please

[LoveMyGirls]

Hi girls im currently hoping to become a childminder by march next year and im thinking of how i will need to disapline children i was wondering if you could give me any ideas on what it acceptable? Many Thanks

Complicated

Can't use a naughty chair, however you can use a time out chair (it can't be a particular chair in a specific place - you should use different chairs/bottem step etc in a random way)

I think that's the current advise

Obviously no smaking/hitting/etc

Mustn't demean or undermine the child ie what you did was naughty - not you are naughty

Bit late - can't think.....

Thanks for answering, please come back when you're more awake - i know what a good CM you are and how successful your business is i've been on MN quite a while now.

How come you have to use a different chair/ step? isnt that confusing for the children?

For 2 reasons I think - to make it hard for the child to behave badly and then go & sit on the child(to say sorry) ie I did it but I went to say sorry staight away so it doesn't count

Also so that the discipline can be imposed at the c/mers house at toddler group etc

It's more like tiome out (but it's difficult to "leave" a childminded child - the way you can your own)

Other minders will let you know about their methods I'm sure

Good luck

I gush praise (if deserved) at my mindees so that they hopefully won't ever misbehave!! It's really only simple stuff like, "thankyou for putting the bricks back into the toy box" or "you are being so kind to the baby". And we have lots of cuddles - if you have a habitually "naughty" (sorry, I know I shouldn't use that word - but these children do exist!) child, I make a real effort to praise and have cuddles whenever possible if appropriate.

If bad behaviour does escalate, which will always happen when you have your OFSTED inspection, I do the following:

Say "please try not to throw the toy/tip your drink on the floor/rip the books" and will try and distract the child with something else.

If ignored, I will remove the child (or toy) from the situation, and again nicely ask them not to do whatever it is.

(If the child in trying to sit on the baby/strangle the cat, I will obviously intervene immediately and remove baby/cat/child from the situation.)

If all else fails and WW3 is inevitable, I will do time-out on a settee in the same room. I can't remember the last time I used it (my mindees are obviously so beautifully behaved or soooooo scared of me).

I usually ask the child to stop doing whatever they are doing and explain why. If they carry on I tell them they will have to go and sit in their buggy, which is in the hall. All the doors are open and they can see me. I then keep myself busy and ignore them. Withdrawal of attention shows that you are not impressed with them. I leave them in the buggy for one minute for each of their years. So a three year old would be in there for three minutes. Once they are out of the buggy we carry on as normal.