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Shock Horror! Children need hugging!

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alibubbles · 05/05/2011 07:53

Hugs extend happiness at Happy Days

A nursery is reporting great benefits from its experiment to test whether hugging can positively affect a child's mood.

Happy Days Nursery in Dundee, Scotland, introduced the practice of children giving each other a daily cuddle to help them feel happy a year ago. Nursery staff say that since then, they have noticed that children are more empathetic towards each other and use more caring language.

Other reported effects of the Cuddle Circles project, which is being overseen by Dr Suzanne Zeedyk, senior lecturer in psychology at the University of Dundee, are that children share more and hug each other without being prompted.

The nursery says the project was inspired by a seminar on autism delivered by Dr Zeedyk, who demonstrated how affection can make autistic adults happier, and suggested the nursery try the same technique with the children.

Nursery staff started the twiceweekly group hug with a small number of their two- to five-year-olds. They then introduced it to the two- and three-year-olds, who they said enjoy hugging the most.

Nursery manager Paula Williamson said, 'The results have been amazing. After two to three weeks of hugging we saw a positive change in the children.

'A cuddle is such a simple thing, but can make such a difference. The project has also been beneficial to staff, who have become more aware of the emotional side of caring for the children.'

The nursery will now report its findings back to parents, whom staff hope to encourage to give their children a hug when dropping off and collecting them. Dr Zeedyk said she noticed that many parents at the setting did not give their child a hug when they asked for one.

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TrinityRhino · 05/05/2011 07:56

they really needed to do an experiment to work this out....the mind boggles

MumInBeds · 05/05/2011 08:00

This is great news. It is common sense but it is good to be able to have a study to back it up as in the past couple of years there has been a developing sense within the pre-school settings I have seen of keeping at arms length in case there are accusations.

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 05/05/2011 08:04

I didn't know you could stop two and three year olds hugging one another when the mood takes them. I gather our carers spend half their days (not really) seperating piles of well-meaning toddlers.

wrinklyraisin · 05/05/2011 10:06

I cuddle and am cuddled by my charge many times a day! Its so important to model tactile (appropriate) love to children! They are happier and more secure definitely! Can't believe that a study was needed to show simple common sense. Actually yes I can believe it. Ridiculous paranoid pc government guidelines.

peeby · 10/05/2011 19:59

I have recently had the pleasure of sitting in with Dr Zeedyk where she talked through her studies. She was invited by VIP Childcare in Elgin, Moray by the manager on behalf of all the parents with children attending the nursery. The talk touched on many "common sense" approaches which we all take for granted. But in our busy day to day lives-nursery runs-washing-shopping-cooking-feeding-controlling play- it is so easy to miss out on what our babies are telling us. The neuro-science data is there underpinning these simple approaches which cost nothing yet give the world. Please look at the studies and what advice is there.Watching the footage of the romanian orphan with autism, how this young boy reacted after his carer had been given advice on matching his play- this was the most inspirational and emotional piece of film I have ever witnessed.
I too was extemely cynical when Dr Zeedyk released her findings on front facing buggies. Having used a phil and teds for my boys... My new face to face buggy is due in five days. The nail was firmly hit on the head and I completely see how my youngest boy's quietness is tied in with him being in the front face buggy so much. We do the nursery run five days a week which is two miles, four times a day.
There is'nt enough I can say as to how beneficial her research is. Go take a look, get an informed opinion... it really is worth your babies life ahead.

alibubbles · 11/05/2011 13:33

This not a childminder versus nursery debate or intended to be, but as childminders at music group today, we all had at least one child hanging off our laps, it is easy to see how much love and affection goes between c/m and child and it is natural. I have little ones squabbling and saying my lap, my lap but they know they will all get time on my lap.

I also make sure that any new baby or child in my setting has one on one cuddle time, some children don't take to it easily and you can tell they have not been cuddled at home or the nursery they have been in.

A parent remarked to me that her child was a lot more cuddly and affectionate to the family since she had been with me.

You can't love all children you look after, but touch is essential for well being and a happy child, it costs nothing and reaps rich rewards.

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thebody · 11/05/2011 14:41

we have hug baskets all the time in my setting and the children constantly hug each other..i think its very sad that this doctor has to spend time researching the bloody obvious however well meaning she is...

what next..

the value of play!!!! do children like it.. can they do it without adult intervention and helecoptering???

do fat people become fat because of some mysterious gland activity or do they simply stuff their faces and sit on their arses too much????

should patients really be fed and turned in hospital beds to prevent death from dehydration and pressure sores!!! shock horror.. should they be CLEAN???

is breast best or do we really really need more bloody research to frighten and intimidate women over the feeding of their babies instead of them choosing what is best for them and for others to mind their own bloody business???

the list would be endless......oh and if any doctor is thinking of researching this, i was hit by a car when I was 7 and yes it bloody hurt

KaraStarbuckThrace · 12/05/2011 12:16

One of the things that makes me smile about DS's nursery is I often see members of staff cuddling with the children, whether it is a quick hug as they are playing or sat on the floor with a child or 2 in their laps.
Plus whenever they have a bump it is always recorded on the form "treatment - cuddles &...."

You would think it is very self-evident that cuddles are necessary but in some settings children don't get them :(

Nurturemonger · 01/08/2013 20:51

You may be fearless, you may be wise, you most certainly are mistaken if you think the obvious to you is the obvious to others. They may be scared, they may be misinformed, they may succumb to peer pressure but a lot of them need to know, and a good deal of those are the people that make the policies that rule or direct people's lives. I'm glad you find it obvious, I find it obvious but I'm not about to deride someone for stating it again, and again, and again until everybody knows. Keep spreading the word.

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