CM - what will she need to know about my DD?

[rachael2401]

I am writing a document for my CM about my daughter and her routine, likes and dislikes etc. I would be grateful to hear from anyone with ideas about useful things to know. DD is going for her first full day on Tuesday :(

What are her favourite songs, if she's upset.
Favourite food/snacks to stop her crying.
Sleep routine, and her cues and signs for when she's tired.
Does she have a comforter, dummy, etc. Maybe you could take couple of her favourite toys, or somethign that belongs to you. To reassure her you're coming back to get your things.
Can she get to sleep herself
Foods she really dislikes

Goodluck. Its nerve racking isnt it.

yes, I like Lukymum's list

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It's HIDEOUS!!! I absolutely do not want to go back. Thanks for those ideas. I will add info about songs as I hadn't though of that! She can't get to sleep on her own - totally my fault as I just cuddle her to sleep. I have tried really hard to teach her to sleep on her own and it has worked but every time she's ill we just revert back to cuddling. Am I a bad mum?!!

no you are not a bad mum

you are meeting her needs

Food likes and dislikes
Activity likes and dislikes
bottles - cows milk, formula, breast milk? Heated, room temp? Are bottles sterilised or not?
Food (if applicable) - puree, small lumps, big lumps or as it comes?
Nappy - is cream used all the time or just when required?
Nap time - when and how?

HTH

things your child likes/dislikes or is a bit scared of eg dogs, people with hats on, getting her feet tickled.

I know they night sound daft but Ive got a mindee who absolutely hates these things and mum didnt tell me. I only found out when child started screaming.

Allergies, food restrictions, from religion or even if u dont want her to have biscuits.
comforters if she has any,
might be weird and il prob end up confusing you but in my last job i had 2 siblings where one was really physical and loved cuddles and if you told him off would try to cuddly you and one wasnt a cuddly person but was very verbal so her praise and her 'discipline', her comfort etc was verbal, so maybe say something like my daughter is a very cuddly person or, my daughter isnt really a cuddly person but takes great pleasure in 'verbal love' or something like that-i know what im saying lol.
if your daughter gets poorly, what you want cm to do, eg administer medicine without informing you first, call you up etc.

Don't worry about sounding silly when you put your ideas to paper. The littlest thing can help a CM settle your child. I like parents to take round a notebook as they go through their daily routine and just make a note of anything that comes to mind that is 'special' about their child's wants and needs.