Sleeping with charge.

[Allleila]

I work as a live-in nanny. My hours aren't set I work when the mother works and she works shifts. She's just started a new job where she's expected to do nights. I would have no problem working nights if the mothere didn't expect me to have the child in my bed at night. The little girl is wonderful but she is 17 months old and I don't feel comfortable with the idea of her staying in my bed at night. I can underdtand where the mother is coming from as she has always had her in her bed (the cot is just a prop in the nursery to be honest).

Also to make matters worse the little girl doesn't have a bedtime or any sort of routine to be honest but we've always managed. But I do know that she doesn't go to bed until gone 10 and I am normal in bed by 9.

So would you say that I'm being unreasonable that I want to contest this idea and say I'm will to work the nights if she has a bed time and will sleep in her cot? Any and all opinions will be appreciated.

Well done! Good on the XH. Hope it works out with the mum, it sounds like a terrible situation to be put in!

I did overnight babysitting recently, when I got there mum informed me that both kids slept in her room with her and that they wouldn't sleep without someone being there. I laid on her bed for hours and in the end fell asleep but it was the most uncomfortable night ever, sleeping in someone elses bed with their child is just odd in my opinion and I really didn't enjoy it at all, I certainly wouldn't be willing to do that regularly. Jeesh, I don't even let my own DD into my bed, can't think of anything worse .....