Live-in nannies/ maternity nannies - catering

[deliakate]

Hi, so it looks like we might be employing a temporary live-in nanny (or poss a maternity nanny) - but I have a question about the mealtimes. I'm about to have another baby, and I remember from last time that feeding myself was slightly chaotic. I got by (had to as I was ebf), but I'm worried that I'll feel beholden to cater for the nanny, especially in the evenings, and this will stress me out and frankly make the whole thing far less of an aid to helping me cope.

Does anyone have any light to shed on this? Its part of the reason I don't think I could have an au pair, because sometimes I only have a piece of toast for my supper, and I would hate them to feel they weren't being looked after.

I would never expect a parent to feed me- provide food yes, basic ingredients for me to cook or extra of what the children eat. I'd feel quite uncomfortable if a parent cooked for me, occasionally they have something left over that I can eat (had spare lasagne this week!). Its appreciated when a parent asks if there is anything I want in particular, to add to the Acado or whatever, but thats unnesesary.

You could ask for a nanny to cook for you as part of their duties, as long as you are upfront and dont spring it upon them. I see plenty of ads where family cooking is part of the duties, everyday or once a week or whatever.

The maternity nanny should be looking after you which may involve cooking, at the least making you the toast! I distinctly remember being told when I trained as a maternity nanny that if we were preparing a snack/meal/cuppa for ourselves we should offer the parents something to ensure the mother was eating as well, which makes perfect sense and it's no hassle to cook extra really.

So no, all you have to do is provide ingredients and, while it's appreciated when you ask if there's anything extra they want, they should be able to get by as long as the basics are there.

def DONT cater for the nanny and now you already have a child, get the nanny to cook larger portions of what she cooks for no 1 and you eat that

as frakk said, a mn is there to look after baby and mum, so ask her if you need something