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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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My own child is battering my mindee...

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chabbychic · 18/03/2011 20:24

18 month dd has taken it upon herself to make this poor boy's life a misery (15 months). She does not respond to telling off, if anything it makes her carry on. I have been honest with the parents but not sure what to do to make it better. She's much better when we're out and about - doesn't even notice him, so I try to get out as much as possible.

What else can I do?

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mummyosaurus · 18/03/2011 20:35

I have looked after my nephew since he turned 1 and my DS was 16 mths.

Same challenge here for a long time. When they were little I just comforted and protected the little one, took him into the kitchen with me a shut the stairgate so DS couldn't get to him. No telling big one off. Did that for a couple of weeks and it all died down.

nervatious · 18/03/2011 21:28

Same here, 19m DS bullies 16m mindee, pushes her over etc. I have to put them in separate rooms. However, 2yrold mindee bullies ds so its swings and roundabouts really...

Tryharder · 19/03/2011 00:52

If you can't physically stop her from beating him up, then you need to tell the parents that you cannot look after the child anymore.

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chabbychic · 19/03/2011 18:01

Hmm. I will be completely honest with them and see what they say. I know if I was in their shoes I wouldn't be happy.

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TheProvincialLady · 19/03/2011 18:04

Before you tell the parents, have you tried just removing your DD from the room silently (after saying "No we don't hit") for a minute or so? Because I would imagine this arises from jealousy and she is getting your attention when you tell her off. If you remove the attention she may stop.

But you will also need to address the jealousy in a positive way, giving her lots of attention when she is being 'good' with him.

looneytune · 19/03/2011 18:08

Agree with last post - I've had to do silent removal when I've seen that it's done for a reaction.

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chabbychic · 19/03/2011 18:35

Ok will try that, thanks.

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Berryred · 23/03/2011 13:28

when my dd was this age she was a biter, and would push over mindies. I had to get a phil and teds (honest the only reason lol) as in the side by side double she would grab and bite mindie :(

Lots of positive praise, it does go, and now I have a lovely 6 yr old who gets very upset when I talk about it! it's a funny age

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