parents want toddler to settle herself to sleep

[MilkNoSugarPlease]

Am a nanny, youngest charge is 19m old

She's always slept well but is stubborn, if she wants to sleep she will, if not there's no way she will and will sob for ages but sleeps through the night etc

Parents have asked that I now just put hee in the cot regardless of whether she's tired, at 10.45 for her nap and let her cry it out

She's currently screaming for me and a cuddle, intertwined with sobbing her heart out

It's 20m after I put her sown and she's distraught, doing this hasn't worked at all all week- she's just spent an hour sobbing

Should I just tell parents I'm bot doing it as its just not working?!

Fwiw, she is screaming the house down and is mire upset then she's been ub a long time.....ak going to her her out now

If I were that parents child I would want my nanny to offer comfort to my child first of all, over any desire I might have to have a routine enforced. But that's me. I can't listen to my child crying, wouldn't want my nanny to either. Presumably that's why they employed you, because they trusted your judgement.

that child's Parent (oops)

Agree with last poster. Also, does this child have an afternoon nap too? I must admit I personally think a 10.45am nap being forced at this age is a bit . I'm a CM who has had many children from very young and by this age they are usually on just a nap after lunch (mostly). If they are tired at that time then of course let them sleep but I think 20 mins of screaming is definitely enough and I'd go and comfort them and tell the parents that maybe they just don't need a morning nap now?

picked her up, gave her a cuddle and she's now dozed off on my lap!

She's always had a nap before lunch (12-1.30ish) then dozes off at 4pm always has done

She's always said she trusts my judgement etc but is adamant this is a better way to get her to sleep longer during the day for them at weekends

Sorry but I can't let.the pour kid sob for an hour any more, she looks so miserable right now!, she's been an utter nightmare thus week....coinciding with this new routine!

Sounds like she's ready to drop the morning sleep and have a longer one after lunch.

I agree with Dan. Most kids I've known of this age have only had 1 long nap after lunch.

I couldn't listen to a child scream and cry like that, no way.

It sounds like the parents haven't realised that their DD is growing up and not a baby that can be put to bed for several hours a day to give them time to themselves!

I know I am being very judgemental here, but I am that the parents want her to sleep more during the day at the weekends if that is all the time they have with her.

Every child of this age I've worked with, has the after lunch nap but charge won't sleep after she's.eaten!

They so want her kept as a baby but its nor fair on her and they don't realise that!

Ali-when's that baby coming?!?

breathe - indeed.

Milk - I'm due a week tomorrow! Booked in for a section week-Monday if nothing has happened before then. I am so over being pregnant [heffalump emoticon]

:o oh I'm rather excited for you!!!

THEN will you change your name?! :o

I will - especially as I have bought some lovely new fluffy nappies for this little one

:o good!

Ooh new fluffy nappies are lovely! Not so much when they're 2+ years old and have been through uncountable washes!!

No exactly. We've kept some which are in reasonable condition that we'll use when the baby is older, but it is lovely to have new fluff to put on a new bottom :)