Nanny Etiquette Question

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I have never thought about having a Nanny because of how much it would cost where we last lived vs how much I earnt at the time.

However I have also put my head in the sand with regards to who is going to care for ds when it comes to me returning to work and was hoping a small miracle would occur.

WELL just so happens that a friend (not close) has no need for her nanny with school age children, the days would suit me/work/her I know and trust her as she has worked locally for a few years.

I have no idea of money but will cross that bridge when we get to it, however its the bridge before i want to know about at the moment. Do I have to discuss with my friend if we would be interested? How do I go about it ensuring everyone is happy?

I would discuss it with friend first - ask if she is definitely going to be letting her nanny go and if she confirms then ask if she would mind passing your details on to her as you are interested.

But I wouldn't do any of that before checking what going rate is for your area and whether you can afford her as both parties will be pissed off if you pull out.

That is what I thought - know for definite friend is reluctantly letting her go - she has worked for the family on and off for 15 yrs so knows them really well. Will discuss it first, know its pure cheekiness but actually think friend might be pleased that someone she knows is wanting her. Will approach via email to gage the territory first and find out possible going rates.

I have had this situation before in many jobs when the elder children go off to school and I don't want to leave so have taken on another family with a baby or toddler on a share basis.
Sometimes I found the other family and in some of the cases I was passed around the family's friends.
Would your friend be interested in sharing the nanny who could look after your child during the day and then do the school runs for the other family.
This is also a good way of keeping your costs down as the nanny would earn more but as the wage is split between the two families you end up paying a lot less but get good childcare.
The nanny may also be up for this arrangement if you discuss it with her.

Well, have contacted my friend and will wait to see what she says - I won't see nanny again until next week so there isn't any urgency but I have had such nanny envy with those who have her that I really don't want to lose out if she is willing to take us on!