Do you have a "mindees tkaing toys home" policy

[Saltire]

? and if so how have you worded it

No I don't.

My toys dont leave my house...end of story.

I always just say that if they take toys home there wont be anything to play with the next time they come!

No I don't have a policy but I always say 'thank you thats stays here for everyone to play with, you may play with it next time' when they are dissapearing out of the door.
Its confusing for the child if one day they take something and then they can't, its also not fair on others.
Have you got a problem with a child or a parent??

Danthe4th Wed 02-Mar-11 16:33:24
Have you got a problem with a child or a parent??

Haha

Problem is with a child. the child is always wanting to take something home. When his dad picks him up , then he says "no it' stays here" and distract. Child ahs tantrum but dad deals with it , of sorts
mum picks up and child has toy. mum says to child "oh ask saltire if you can borrow it and bring it back tomorrow". i say no, then massive tantrum ensues which mum ignore competely, she busy talking at me and I am left trying to deal with it.

I just wondered if there was some form of policy either toys or behaviour I could incorporate into my policies?
I had to go after 3 days and get pram and shopping trolley

I have introduced a toy library policy where the children have to sign their names in a notebook when they take a toy and when they bring it back.

The only rule is that they can't take a toy if they still have one at home.

It works well at making home times less stressful, and encourages literacy/mark making for a purpose.

I have a notice on the inside of my front door.

PLEASE REMEMBER TO SIGN YOUR CHILD IN/OUT.

PLEASE REMEMBER NOT TO BRING TOYS FROM HOME.

PLEASE REMEMBER THAT TOYS FROM HERE DO NOT GO HOME WITH YOU.

This was after I had the same sort of problem.

Would that work?

DS often seems to come home with things in the bottom of his pushchair which have been stashed there over the course of the day I usually text her and she says "Lol! Never mind, bring it back on Tuesday" or whenever he's next in. I think we currently have her TV remote

Only issue we ever had was when he brought a toy with him which was the same as one the CM had, which meant huge tears ensued at home time as he insisted it was his while CM's DD insisted it was theirs. We had to turn the house upside down to find the CM's one.

Since then have tried to avoid taking any toys to CM unless they are very distinctive and I know CM doesn't have one the same.

CM is very small though and DS is the only under-5 so she's quite relaxed.

if i was a CM my policy would be that my toys stay at my house, end of

toys from home would not be welcome (in childs bag all day) although of course comfort teddies / muslins etc would be fine.

I only have one mindee who likes to borrow something everytime he comes. I think it's his reassurance that he'll be coming back. We now have "the borrowing basket". he can put one or two things in and brings them back next time he comes.

As part of tidy up time, he puts his teddy etc in it and anything he wants to borrow. All my playmobil men have a blue nailvarnished heel so they can't get mixed up with his.

This was to prevent massives tantrums at the end of the day because he couldn't decide what to borrow.

having said all that, he is the only mindee out of four who likes to borrow things, if they all wanted to, I'd have to re-think.

Thanks for advice everyone. I just don't need the stress of it at home time. I also don't wnat to keep having to go over or send my Dses over 3/4 days later when toy hasn't came back yet.

might go with Shoshe's idea first see how that goes

if the child is having a tantrum arent you suppossed 2 ignore them? i mean they have 2 learn no means no....

I don't let toys leave my house. If a child is particularly attached to a toy they want to play with the next day, I will sometimes leave it in their box, ready for them to play with the next morning. I sometimes say they are my DD's toys and she would be upset.

I don't have a policy, the toys are my property, not theirs.

(NB: Occasionally have to frisk children who love to stash toys in their pockets )

Nailak no problem with trying to avoid it before it starts though. It helps to teach them compromise.

hmmm i wonder which family is creating

a simple no toys go out of house should be enough, if charge is screaming then let him and push both mum and child out of door and close it and go and have

I wouldn't let toys go home - what happens if it comes back damaged or with pieces missing etc? Not worth falling out over it and I know I'd be cross if it happened.

I was quite annoyed when a child took one of DS' (brand new as it was a birthday present the week before) cuddly toys home. Mum texted to let me know, which was absolutely fine, these things happen. Except the DC apparently got v attached to it (Mum called to ask where she could get one for the DC etc) and when I got it back 2 weeks later it had clearly been dragged everywhere with the DC as it was very manky and 'worn' looking. I know stuff happens - this DC breaks/damages toys here quite often (mum knows and doesn't apologise or offer to replace :() but if my child had taken someone else's toy then I'd keep it out of reach until it could be returned. Grrrr!

No toys come in or out of my house. Thats it. lol

no toys out at all.. toys in are put immediately away for home time...

leeloo 1 how awful.. what a cheek!!

tantrums..

I look at the child with distain, move them out of playroom and place on naughty step... get onto their eye level and tell them that they look very silly, to behave, and then leave them to get on with it..

no attention or play till noise stops and then they apologise to me and the other children/adults who were affected by the nonsence.

then cuddles and move on..

works like a dream.. my toddlers never tantrum now,, well not for me anyway...

thebody - lol, I thought so too. Don't think parent thought anything of it though. :(

Funnily enough that DC is a big tantrum-er as well (although can be very sweet too)...

Enjoyable thread. I particularly LOLed at BertieBotts:

I think we currently have her TV remote

My DW CM doesn't have a policy but I know she wouldn't let any toys out of the house. One DC used to bring little cars in but I think enough of them got mixed up in our car box that his parents stopped bringing any more....