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CM Club - I can refuse care can't I - if children are not able to take part in normal activities?

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Booh · 21/02/2011 20:08

Just had a text from a parent, her children are due to come to me tomorrow.

The text says 'X & Y have a bit of a cold and not been 100% over the weekend, they need a quiet day in tomorrow, I am happy for them veg on sofa with DVD or DS etc'

Now - what do I do, we had big day out planned tomorrow, as I have four other children. Its outside all day, picnic, tea out etc.

If they are not up for it? Should they not come?

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NickNacks · 21/02/2011 20:11

I would tell her your plans and say that if they are not up to it then they'd best stay at home with mummy. Perfectly fine to say that, you're not a nurse and i'd do the same.

justcarrots29 · 21/02/2011 20:12

I would not exclude a child for having a cold. However, if they are only wanting to lie on the sofa and maybe have a temperature then I would not accept them as they are poorly and we are not nurses.

I would text and ask for a little more information.

chabbychic · 21/02/2011 20:14

I wouldn't change my plans and explain that if they're not up to it then they stay at home.

A similar situation with my friend when it was v snowy - parent didn't want cm to drive. She said ok and stayed in all day - I don't think parents are allowed to dictate like that!

IsItMeOr · 22/02/2011 07:04

chabbychic - I actually think the v snowy one would have been common sense anyway tbh.

OP - sounds fair to me. Think justcarrots has the right idea.

Strix · 22/02/2011 07:38

As a parent, I agree. Don't change your plans -- especially if they are not your only mindees. But, also, don't exclude them. Let the mum decide if they are up to the day's (already planned) activities. As a small business owner, it is your right and your job to plan activities. If a parent wants to dictate the day's activities, she/he needs a nanny.

justcarrots29 · 22/02/2011 13:15

How did you get on booh?

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Booh · 22/02/2011 15:37

Well I did text mum back to say we are going A, B, C....and needless to say, I wasnt due back home until 6pm as we were meant to be out for tea. But I have two children with temps, runny noses, cried all morning after falling asleep within 3 mins of getting in car.

Have just text mum to say I think she should keep them at home tomorrow as we are going to National history museum on train (an hour away)

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justcarrots29 · 23/02/2011 06:51

I think that is going to be best. They will not enjoy the day if they are that bad. How inconsiderate to you and her children!

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