cm club i am upset

[dmo]

i have been a cm for 9yrs now and in that time i have had a total of 5 days off sick

last wednesday i started to feel unwell by thursday i had lost my voice and was getting sleepy so decided to take friday off work, but by friday morning i was so ill i could not stand so went to the doctors (passed out there) and was told to have bed rest, on saturday i text everyone (as i could not talk) to say i would be closed monday and tuesday, but by monday night i had got worst and doctor believed i had flu (not sure if it was swine flu) so i text all parents on monday to say i would be off all week.

fast forward to last night i received a text to say parent had taken child out due to the fact i was ill and they had to put child in nursery (child comes mon, tues and wed)

i am so upset
a) because receiving a text is a sad way to end things
b) child was really happy here and i wont have a chance to say good bye
c) i am never off and child only missed 3 days

anyway i know its not the parents fault they needed care but its the first time i have been ill while looking after this child and the child started over a yr ago

oh you poor thing how upsetting

(make sure that they pay you the notice)

Do you have a back-up CM friend, whom you could recommend if this happens again?

yes i do have a back up childminder who this parent rang on sunday night............but as i had sent text to everyone saturday this parent was beat to a place.

i have a deposit which is there notice but its not the point

So they gave notice via text. Yes it's sad way to end thing but they needed the care and nursery may well have said they couldn't have the place on a temporary basis.

DMo I was like that last year, I had swine Flu that turned to pneumonia, and I was hospitalized. I was off two weeks, never had any time off before.

I was lucky other Cm's took some of the children, one Mum went onto Maternity a week earlier than planned and took the other schoolie for me.

My parents were brilliant.

No CM takes time off willy nilly (we dont get paid for a start) and for three days and the fact that it took them till the sunday to phone the other Cm, it is really sad.

DMO hope you are feeling better now.

Please remember that you did all you could to help. I have felt like this in the past when children have moved away or started school due to age but I have found often that space is filled quickly and after a few weeks you realise it was for the best. Here have a nice hot to make things seem better

ime nurseries are far stricter than cms about the odd runny nose or sniffle

if that's the case, that family may well regret their decision

as if what is bound to be an upset child isn't bad enough :(

Hope you're feeling much better.

yes just sad how it was done

already filled the place about half hour after the text from mum i i knew somebody wanting a place but could help them.

clarinco you are right child is always on antibotics for one thing or another

anyway off for a few days this week on holiday (child who gave notice is term time only as mum is at college so wouldnt be here this week anyway) back to work on thursday x

This once happened to me. I'd cared for the child since she was a 4 month old baby and they took her out the term before she was due to start school. I didn't even get a text: just a scrap of paper giving notice.
What upset me was that I'd caught the bug off the child and the nursery they chose was the only one in town that ever had immediate places, so you'll guess what THAT meant. Also, they tried to charge me for the difference in cost because "I let them down".

It was upsetting but, as time went on, I started to see that it had its benefits, too.
The children weren't off sick nearly so much because she wasn't being sent when she wasn't well.
We no longer had a parent trying to get free care by dropping off early and arriving late.

You see, when a parent treats you like this, it often isn't the only time they've dumped on you and the attitude that you only exist to provide care for their child and you've let them down by being ill is hardly a respectful one.

I think you may also feel glad in the long term.

wise words Tanith x

Hope ur ok now chick?
Sadly this does happen, i had a 9month old originally took on for 3 months, she stayed for 3 years :-)... Then last april at dd's birthday party was the last time weve ever seen or heard from her!... No notice as was on adhoc contract but we adored this little girl and ALL my messages, texts, calls where completely ignored by ALL family ( we were close) :-(... Its her 5th birthday today, ive sent mum a message on fb but i know it will be ignored... I cant explain why this happend but wanted you to know its not rare x

Thats really sad hope you are feeling ok and seems very mean of parents to take child out.

When looking at childcare (as I am now) when you choose a childminder you take into consideration they may at times be ill and you will need to cover that time as a parent as you would the childminder being on holiday and if that isnt a feasible option then choose a nursery for childcare.

Everyone gets ill and sounds like you are/have been very poorly and dont take time off lightly - shame the parents were not more concerned you are ok.