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Childminders CLub: Do you think this is acceptable

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jellyjelly · 15/10/2005 22:16

I have had a 5 year old school run since the begining of sept. We had a few settling in days where everything was good, however since he starting full time both before and after school he has started to really act up and not get along with my son and the other children.

I know that this is making both of them unhappy and have told the mum. She said that she will monitor it.

Yesterday i had lunch with his previous minder who has just had a baby which was why he started coming to me, anyway the mum the week before asked if she could take him back with out talking to me first. Feel a bit sad about that.

She said that she would but not for 7 weeks, my notice period is 4 weeks. Do you think it is acceptable to stick to the 4 or accomodate the 7? Everyday is a battle and it seems to be making us all unhappy.

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katymac · 15/10/2005 22:19

jellyjelly, that is so sad

I'd do it 'cos it will keep your relationship with the old minder good. She could pass othe rwork your way

Bit concerned she told you tho' isn't that a confidentiallity issue

Sorry it's so rotten

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jellyjelly · 15/10/2005 22:21

No i dont think it is. SHe knew that things were strained from what the mum told her.

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jellyjelly · 15/10/2005 22:22

I discussed with the minder and she doesnt think it will affect her (have know each other for 13 yrs)

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katymac · 15/10/2005 22:24

yeh, but I don't think she should have told you before the mum did......

anyway are you going to do 4 or 7 weeks

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jellyjelly · 15/10/2005 22:25

I think i want to do the 4 as it seems to be affecting my son but i feel guilty.

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katymac · 15/10/2005 22:27

Do the 4 = mum doesn't feel that committed - otherwise she wouldn't be changing

What have you to feel guilty for - she was already planning to leave

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jellyjelly · 15/10/2005 22:31

I dont really know why i did prob makes me feel guilty for it not working even though it is not my fault. Glad that you think she wasnt commited.

Will write a letter tomorrow. Do you think i have to spell out on the letter exactly why i am giving notice?

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jellyjelly · 15/10/2005 22:32

that last one didnt make alot of sense due to lack of punctuation.

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katymac · 15/10/2005 22:33

Upsetting the group dynamics (does that sound good)

Not settling in (same thing different words)

No reason just "family circumstances" easier to justify with "I don't really want to talk about the problems we're having"

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jellyjelly · 15/10/2005 22:38

can you explain a little more on the last one.

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katymac · 15/10/2005 22:40

"We are having family problems at the moment and I need to end XXX's contract." - in your letter

Then if she is hard faced enough to question it just say"I don't really want to talk about the problems we're having"

katymac · 15/10/2005 22:41

Does that make more sense?

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jellyjelly · 15/10/2005 22:44

yes it does thanks. I think i will say that he is not settling in so it is best to have 4 weeks notice starting immediately.

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katymac · 15/10/2005 22:48

Good for you...now pick me some lounge furniture

here

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jellyjelly · 16/10/2005 13:11

Have slept on this overnight and will give the 4 weeks notice as this is best for us.

I dont know why but still feel guilty for putting myself first rather than the family.

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jellyjelly · 17/10/2005 17:58

Well today i gave the 4 weeks notice and he basically said 'well thanks you have put us in the Sh!t now but that is your perogative' and when will it finish i said the date and he said well that screws us.

Any ideas?

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HappyMumof2 · 17/10/2005 18:01

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katymac · 17/10/2005 18:06

Not your fault......It's not worthstressing over

Ignore them

cori · 17/10/2005 18:12

Sounds to me that you are only really giving notice because you found out the child was going to leave anyway. What would you have done if you had not heard the child was planning to go to another childminder? What did you expect from the parents?

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jellyjelly · 17/10/2005 18:13

ok can you give me any assertive but not rude comments to say that this is there problem as they dont know what to do now and the other woman is not starting till dec and i have people askign for spaces.

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katymac · 17/10/2005 18:15

I think Jellyjelly has been having problems with the child for a while and we have been discussing them. He was causing stress before she found out about the other minder.

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jellyjelly · 17/10/2005 18:21

Cori, thanks for your imput but totally incorrect on your part and for information i have been having problems for quite a while.

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jellyjelly · 17/10/2005 18:23

And cori i still would have given notice if i hadnt have found out.

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cori · 17/10/2005 18:28

but would you have given notice at that exact time? Knowing you would leave the parents with a childcare problem?

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jellyjelly · 17/10/2005 18:37

yes i would have given notice anyway but how would i to know that they dont know any other minders.

Would you not put your own childrens happiness first?

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