CMs, nannies - if you meet parents and then don't get the job, how do you prefer to be told?

[WonderingStar]

Hoping this is my last thread here today! Am desperately trying to find new childcare for ds. I have found 2 CMs with vacancies and 2 potential nannies, have got appointments with them all lined up. Hopefully one of them will work out but obviously at least 3 of them won't. I suspect it will be just because I prefer one (and hope they like me and ds too!) rather than finding fault with the others.

So if this was you, what do you want / need to hear from a parent and how? phone call, text, email, left open-ended? Meaningless platitudes or honest feedback?

I hate things like this, don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but don't want to leave anyone dangling either.

Personally I prefer phonecall. Thanking them and I think you were lovely but decided the other option suited me better. Thats it really

I prefer Email, with honest feedback!

But tbh, after I had 23 interviews, 2 job offers and 2 saying no thanks...19 no replies ever!...anything would do!

Quite honestly, it's just really nice to be told and not left hanging on wondering if the place is filled or not

They'll be glad you contacted them however you choose to do it. That you're taking the trouble to find out from other childminders the best way of doing it makes me wish you were sending your child to me

Just as long as I get told! I've had parents leave me hanging, or calling me six months after the interview to see if I'm still available! I've had texts saying 'thanks but no thanks' up to calls and emails with flowery verse saying I was a wonderful person and they are sure I would be an excellent nanny but they've gone elsewhere. A bit of feedback is alwasy appreciated but as long as I know for certain, its all good.

tbh only been one job i wanted i didnt get - she went for someone cheaper and 6mths down the line she got pregnant for 3rd time and gave up work, so glad i didnt get the job iyswim

was through agency and they just said they liked us both both other girl was £25 cheaper a week (was in the days where spoke nett) and they couldnt afford me

The jobs I have turned down if not through an agency a simple polite email is prob the way to go so you can say what you need without faltering (ie if you ring)

Email is better (less pressure on the other person) but tbh any mode of telling is appreciated! Not knowing is awful.

In the same vein I always email prospective parents to let them know if I'm still interested/available.

As the others have said ... honestly and quickly works for me.

Lovely to get a response at all.

Text or email. I hate speaking on the phone so wouldn't like to be told that way!

Thanks everyone, I will be quick and honest. I just hope that one of the CMs works out.

One of the nannies was a bit full on, seemed to assume that because I want someone asap and she's available that meant the job was practically hers. I sent her a nice email saying that I would like to meet her but that there has been a bit of interest from other nannies, and I am seeing two CMs and that I want to see everyone as I need to get this right for my son. Haven't heard back! But not hearing back is a good way of weeding out people you don't want, right?

Hi,

I am currently looking for a new job. On Saturday I applied for a job, the family phoned me Saturday night und asked if I could straight come for an interview. Took me one hour to get there, one hour to get back... no problem at all.

On Monday morning the agency I am registered with phoned me and told me about the job not knowing I already had an interview there. I told her that I was really keen on the job. Today I got an email from the family saying that they have found someone. BUT I then found the job readvertised and special featured on Gumtree this evening. Why can't people be honest?

I would like to told by email if through gumtree. Before i acepted this job saw one that i really wanted with an agencey took the family three weeks to set an interveiw date the agencey phoned me the next day to say please do not say yes to anything else the family would call me in two weeks time after their holiday.Also had the current job offer on the table they spoke to me on the Friday saw me on Sunday spoke to my old employer on Monday . Rung me in the afternoon with the offer.

wow some people are rude - expecting you to sit round for 3 weeks while they go on holiday and keep yourself available for them?!

now, two more questions! I hadn't really appreciated gross / net / NI etc and I can see that the nanny option is really no go now - just too ££. I guess I should just say this to the 2 nannies who are supposed to be coming to meet us? I know it sounds a bit crap and possible a bit of a get-out excuse, though it isn't! No point me interviewing someone if I can't pay them their going rate.

Also, I advertised on a local web board and a few more potential nannies have messaged me - now obviously it would be nice to go back to them all but I have a lot on - would you expect a response to what is a speculative email, ie I haven't gone back and talked more about the position, location, pay etc I've just tried to see if there is anyone available now on the days I need and they've put themselves forward.

I would do a generic cut/paste email the speculatives and say that you're not looking any more. Doesn't take 5 minutes but it's really appreciated. Thne take the ad down.

For those you have interviews arranged with I'd probaby call them up and enquire what they want to be paid. If they want to much then call if off.

I had one family get back to me 3 months after an interview once (via the agency). Unsurprisingly I'd already found another job by then which sucked because it was a really great job and I liked the mother very much but I wasn't going to hang around and hope...