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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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It keeps on changing!

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confusedhere · 28/01/2011 22:23

Changed my name for this as I'm not sure who would be looking.

I'm a cm with my DH and we have a mindee that is on flexi hours. The child is 13 months and on a diet. The mum tells us what she needs but because times change and her diet has done it's hard to keep up sometimes. It's either fruit drink, milk or purried veggies.

There was one occasion that she wanted her to have the fruit. The mindee didn't like it. So I kept trying from time to time. When she picked her up I told her that I did try and she said "did you give her milk then?" I told her no I didn't as I thought she wanted us to persue with the fruit as part of the diet. She turned around to child and said "your going to be hungry" think she was getting at me.

This morning she said that there was veggies, milk and juice. I and my Dh both heard her say that it was the veggies she wanted for breakfast. I thought it was odd but gave her the veg all the same. Milk at lunch. She picked her up after lunch and i told her that she ate all the veg for breakfast and milk for lunch. She looked at me agast as if I'd poisoned her or something "you don't give veg for breakfast!" I apollogised and so did my DH and he said it was his fault as he confirmed what I thought I heard. She went off annoyed.

Now I know we have done wrong but I've admitted the accident but she was cared for properly. It wasn't as if I gave chocolate or something she can't have is it?

She is very quiet about this diet. We seem to get more from dad. Advice please on how to deal with this.

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HSMM · 28/01/2011 22:32

Sounds very odd to me. If she is giving you daily instructions, ask her to write them down and give you the note when she arrives in the morning.

GarconsSontCommeDesChiens · 28/01/2011 22:33

Does the child have allergies?

I would be very nervous tbh, if I was asked to commit to dieting a 13 month old baby in my care without some sort of medical evidence

If there are good grounds for the diet, or I have misunderstood then get a schedule in writing from the parents, say you want to ensure no misunderstandings thus written requirements should be provided

GarconsSontCommeDesChiens · 28/01/2011 22:33

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Bertina · 28/01/2011 22:37

what sort of diet is it? weight loss?!

yes, she should write down her wishes

nannynick · 28/01/2011 22:40

Dieting 13 month old... I'd say you need to see something from a GP in writing.

If it's just parental wishes - then get it in writing each day and keep it on file.

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confusedhere · 29/01/2011 01:06

She is following advice from her pediatrician from her home country. She visits him about every 6 weeks. Yes the child is a bigger child but I wouldn't say that she was huge. I have seen bigger. Besides she's not walking yet (on the cusp) so the "puppy fat" will come off when she moves a bit more. She took a while to crawl and now crawls alot.

DH was thinking about putting a white board by the door so when she tells us what she needs food wise we can put it on there. But isn't that a confidential issue? Even if we don't name her?

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HSMM · 29/01/2011 08:23

I'd get her to write it down, so you can keep a copy in her file in case anyone asks why you were feeding her strange food combinations.

PositiveOutlook · 29/01/2011 08:36

I would definitely get written instructions everyday and also confirmation in writing from the parents or their doctor that the diet is for medical reasons. there is no other reason a child of 13 months should be on a restricted diet and I would consider if it could possibly be a safeguarding issue?

looneytune · 29/01/2011 08:54

Agree with every other poster here, they've covered everything I would have said :) How odd, you've done nothing wrong!!

RealityIsKnockedUp · 29/01/2011 09:07

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confusedhere · 29/01/2011 10:20

I've got advice from the local childminding association and in Spain (mum's home country) is a way they wean them. Seemingly the children take longer to wean but the child get's there and are no worse off. I know at the child's home they are introducing her to things bit by bit. Dad said the other day that egg has been introduced part by part. To make sure she hasn't got any allergies.

I have been looking on the internet for Spanish weaning but can't find anything so far. I'll ask the parents for a written plan/routine so we are are on board with the Spanish culture.

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HSMM · 29/01/2011 11:08

Definitely keep the written evidence then, because Ofsted will love it that you are showing a respect for a cultural weaning process .

nannynick · 29/01/2011 13:25

It's arse cover time isn't it... the more you get things in writing the better.

If it's a cultural thing... does that mean all children in Spain are on a diet at 13 months old?

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confusedhere · 29/01/2011 14:25

I don't think it's a diet for weight loss. What I meant is that it's a special diet, meaning that it's the way that the parents what her food to be provided to her.

Yes at this age we would expect the child to be fully weaned now.

I can't get info on Spanish children weaning. So will have to get advice from parents.

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Danthe4th · 29/01/2011 16:51

If it was me I would ask for seperate boxes, one for food to be eaten at breakfast/snack time, one for lunch and one for afternoon snack/dinner. Then they can see what is left at each meal so no argument.

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