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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Ah well, here I go again. This could be interesting

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Saltire · 04/01/2011 08:40

I am 99% convinced I was back tow ork tomorrow, however mindees mum insists it's today. And she has taken the day off specially because I am back tow rok. Oh and apparentyl mindee 1 starts his new nursery today. And she is going to come along with me so that I (me who's been dropping children off at nurseries for years) can see what to do.And his hours are going to be the 3 hours a day free funded place. Now this is where it could get interesting - he finishes at 12 noon. Mindee 3 often gets picekd up at 12, so it will be at least 12.15 some days before I am able to get him.
and of course I do the school run so it will be at least 09.15 before he gets droped off.

However since she seems to think she is the only parent in the world who matters then she will just have to accept it

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GoldFrakkincenseAndMyrrh · 04/01/2011 08:49

Are you going to have a quiet word with the nursey to say you'll be late dropping off and picking up? Or early picking up?

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Saltire · 04/01/2011 08:51

Since I am going with the mum today I wil say to them "would you prefer me to pick up early i.e 11.30-11.45 or later - 12.15 ish, since I have other mindees to consider" and see what they say. Chances are they will say that if I pick up late then the mum will be charged.

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pippin26 · 04/01/2011 09:00

Of course that parent is the only one in the world - doncha no!!!!

My mindees nursery have changed their starting time...... parent of mindee has not told me yet......... I only know because I asked for a copy of the letter they were giving out.

FakePlasticTrees · 04/01/2011 09:04

Is there no way you can stop working for this woman? You've been posting so long about her and her family - there must be a way out of it.

PinkChick · 04/01/2011 10:40

Have u got nothing to confirm when u actually start back? And has this woman botherd ti dudcuss nursery times wuth you?

StarExpat · 04/01/2011 12:00

This woman infuriates me.

Blondeshavemorefun · 04/01/2011 12:46

can you pick up late,my dc nursery shuts at 12 and no way could i pick up at 12.15

remind me again why you still have this womans children?

LoveMyGirls · 04/01/2011 13:48

Crazy lady! Mine would have been a bit out of luck had the turned up at mine a day earlier than I'd agreed because I wasn't here yesterday I stayed at a friends didn't come home til 1pm then spent the rest of the day sorting the house/ cars, kids bedrooms so no way could I have worked, I don't see why this lady thinks she has the right to demand when you will work, you are your own boss why are you allowing her to dictate to you?

LoveMyGirls · 04/01/2011 13:49

Not having a go, just typing while I'm eating/ rushing and genuinely confused as to why you let her do this?

HSMM · 04/01/2011 18:17

I would have to say I can't do the nursery run. What if you get held up signing accident forms, etc? I think it will end up being an extra headache for you.

ChippingIn · 04/01/2011 18:33

Saltire - do you not have it in writing when you are off over the Christmas break? I would have just said, I run my own business I decide when I am open and when I am closed - I am not open today. I'm sorry you have booked the day off, but at least you have childcare sorted for your children - see you tomorrow morning.

How did it go at the nursery?

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Saltire · 04/01/2011 22:17

Well. The nursery went ok. I picked him up at 11.45, and was home just as mindee 3 mum got to my door. Mindee 1 +2 mum not happy,that I picked him up early, and even less so when i said "oh, I do school run in morning so he might not get to nursery till about 09.15 or later.

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looneytune · 04/01/2011 23:01

I totally agree with StarExpat, she infuriates me Had she not discussed the whole nursery thing with you before today??

BoysAreLikeDogs · 04/01/2011 23:13

Salty, give notice my love

it's just not worf it x

coldtits · 04/01/2011 23:15

Saltire, seriously, this woman is going to give you a bloody aneurism.

At least you can sack her - that poor kid has to LIVE with that for the rest of his life!

ChippingIn · 05/01/2011 00:20

Saltire - you have the patience of a saint!!

If she's not happy that his nursery hours will be cut short due to your other mindees and previous commitments then maybe it would be better to find another CM

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Saltire · 05/01/2011 07:42

I did have a sheet with my time off over Christmas written down, which I gave to the parents. She said she lost hers..
There aren't , at the minute a lot of full time under 5's needing childcare just now round here, and I really need the income. Also part of me feels that those children need some sort of stability and love during the day. However, you are all right, I should perhaps tout for other business

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GoldFrakkincenseAndMyrrh · 05/01/2011 07:48

If you can get mindees to replace them then ditch her... It's just not possible for you to keep juggling like this for her and although I understand you care about these mindees she's making your life too complicated!

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Saltire · 05/01/2011 07:49

I am not advertising as such but DH is putting out a few feelers around camp

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ChippingIn · 05/01/2011 13:37

Saltire - I'm always a bit conflicted when I read your posts about this woman/these kids.

I think you have been incredibly patient and put up with so much from her that you shouldn't and that you deserve less hassle.

However, at the same time, I am always really happy that these children have you to love them and look out for them as you say, providing them with stability & love.

Actually - could you not just keep them? I'm not so sure she'd be bothered :(

Blondeshavemorefun · 05/01/2011 13:50

as on 'camp' hopefully you will find another family

im all for you keeping them as need an income and to live/pay bills etc BUT remember you are your own employer

you run your own business and you tell HER what you can and cant do and if she doesnt like it, then she can go and find another cm

underpaidandoverworked · 05/01/2011 19:37

Saltire - do you drop the child off at nursery? If so, I would still be charging for the hours they are in nursery - you are running a business and cant fill those hours!!! Agree with others, you have the patience of a saint - I would have lost it a long time ago

My New Years Resolution is to not let parents take me for granted the way I did last year, which cost me shitloads of income .

Be brave and confront her - don't give her a choice, tell it as it is. No ifs. no buts - and if she doesnt like it give notice! This job can be stressful enough without what wou have gone through the last few months. Wish I could be there to punch her lights out for you hun

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