feel really guilty

[gingernutlover]

last night was my dd's last day at CM's before xmas. I got stuck in ridiculous traffic and ended up being about 25 minutes late to collect.

when I got there I said that I realised I now owe her mora than the cheque I wrote that morning and should I write her a new one or would she like cash/2 cheques?

She told me not to worry about it, but I feel terrible that I messed up her evening with her own family - I dont want to embarass her by just giving her some more money, but I dont want to take the mickey either.

What should I do?

Put a fiver in an envelope and put it thru her door.

Bless you, I wouldn't worry as it's not your fault. Once one of my 6pm pickups didn't collect until gone 9pm!!! We'd had terrible floods and mum was helpless, very local but just couldn't get to me! I just put baby to bed and waited for her to arrive and didn't charge any extra. I would have if it happened the next day but it was quite a sudden problem so wasn't going to blame the mum!

the weather was AWFUL yesterday

Don't worry about it for a moment more

If you want to, as PS says stick an extra fiver in

thanks for the replies, I now cant get to her house easily because the snow is so bad.

She did say not to worry because I had kept her informed and because it was beyond my control - I am concerned that she will think I am odd to give her cash when she said not to worry, I normally give her a cheque.

Will ponder it and decide when I can get out.

I would give flowers or a token of my appreciation. Not a five pound note through the door that is a bit, well odd really.

Personally it would be v important to me to do make some kind of gesture and I would never just leave it.

yes, I think a fiver through the door would look a bit odd too

I am always on time, normally about 20-30 minutes early and always keep her informed of anything like this, or if someone else is collecting etc, I would like to think that up until yesterday I had been no trouble. I think I will leave it as she seemed to genuinely not mind.

thank you for the input though.

Yes, my late fees are also there to stop taking the mick! I got more annoyed with the parent who was always (esp on Fri) 5/10 mins late than the one off 3 hours late!!! Honestly, the snow wasn't your fault and it was only 25 mins :)

I think a nice bottle of wine or flowers to say thank you would be nice. It wasnt your fault but Im sure that a thankyou gesture would just show her that you appreciated her extra care for your child.

You sound like a lovely thoughtful person Ginger - I agree with Scarlett, some noce flowers / wine / chocs would I am sure be much appreciated.

Definitely don't give her money, she's said it's fine and if you give her money it makes it all about the money and it isn't. It's about the love you have for the mindees and the respect between the adults.

Take her some choc's/wine/flowers sometime in January, just as a 'thank you' for being you... type thing, not specifically for this... much nicer.

a small thank you is nice,even though it wasnt your fault,she did have your dc past her clock off time and maybe she felt embarrassed to say thats £3 more etc

some flowers/chocs/wine and a card