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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Big big big RANT

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HowsTheSerenity · 17/12/2010 10:01

Today is meant to be my last day. In my resignation letter I said it would be. It is written in the daily diary. The DC's all know. BUT my boss apparantly did not read my resignation letter, the diary or listen to the kids.
She thought it was Monday. She expects me to work Monday. I am moving back to Australia next week. I need to pack. The movers are coming on Tuesday but oh no she needs help packing for theirt trip to America. I would think essentially emigrating would be more important but nooooooooo.
Fuck I am pissed off. The kids had it in their head that I was leaving today. They are now confused. I am really pissed off.
If this was a normal 9-5 job HR would deal with this but now I have to reorganise everything due to her fucking imcompetence.
And breathe.
Thank you for listening.

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TheBlessedVirginReality · 17/12/2010 10:03

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AVeryMerryPersonalClown · 17/12/2010 10:05

Why do you have to rearrange everything?

It's not your problem that your boss didn't read anything.

booyhohoho · 17/12/2010 10:05

sorry but she cannot demand that at all. you tell her today that this is the last you will be working. you will not be there on monday. you made it clear in your letter. she can do nothing. she's taking teh piss quite frankly.

LoveMyGirls · 17/12/2010 10:06

I think it's her tough luck! Not your problem.

nameymacnamechanger · 17/12/2010 10:07

It's tough! Don't let her push you around just say no.

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HowsTheSerenity · 17/12/2010 10:10

I know I know, but she told the kids last night that I was coming on Monday now and they have organised to cook me (a surprise)dinner now on Monday instead of today. I do not want to disappoint them. Why she had to tell them I do not know. Otherwise I would not come in.
I am going to come in late and do nothing at all. Just plonk the kids in front of the tv and maybe do some colouring in but that is IT.

Thank you for reading my long ranty post though

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booyhohoho · 17/12/2010 10:11

she is using teh dcs to manipulate you. she sounds vile. tell the dcs taht their mum has made a mistake and that today is your last day. don't let her emotionally manipulate you.

Novstar · 17/12/2010 10:12

Why she had to tell them I do not know.

It's clearly to manipulate you into coming into work, isn't it?

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HowsTheSerenity · 17/12/2010 10:17

Oh I know exactly what she is doing but now the kids are all excited about their cooking plans. I found the recipes and shopping list

I have told the kids that their mum was silly and did not read the note I left her. So now they know why I am angry and they understand. Asked them how they would feel if that had to go to school during the holidays.

I have said yes and will have to work. I am too nice for my own good but I will be there in person and not doing a thing. No washing, errands anything. Fuck em.

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MJB66 · 17/12/2010 10:25

Id be tempted to charge her triple time or something....

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HowsTheSerenity · 17/12/2010 10:29

Oh the thought has crossed my mind

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StarExpat · 17/12/2010 10:33

So now you get to spend your last weekend before you move packing and getting ready for Tuesday because of her oversight. Lovely.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 17/12/2010 10:39

hah hah Star

poor you, Serenity

booyhohoho · 17/12/2010 10:45

yes you could actually charge an emergency childcare fee as it wasn't contracted.

ForFestiveSake · 17/12/2010 10:55

I would be telling the children about how you love a certain brand of really expensive chocolates in the hope that they pester their parents all weekend to get you them as a leaving present :o

And don't go in until late and certainly don't run around for them. Just enjoy your last day with the kids.

Good luck for the move

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HowsTheSerenity · 17/12/2010 11:40

Thanks everyone!
Star - feel free. The kids are aged 16, 14, 11 and 8. Why the hell I need to be at the house I do not know.

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StarExpat · 17/12/2010 11:44

Oh I want to serenity but I might get told off for it, so I'll keep safe and unbiased.

I like booyhoo's idea and FFS's.

It makes no sense that you need to be there for those ages for packing surely they can all pack for themselves in pairs (16 helping 11 and 14 helping 8)?

nannynick · 17/12/2010 11:47

Could you not just turn up for dinner?

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HowsTheSerenity · 17/12/2010 12:05

Well in an ideal world but the 16yo is a boy and useless at that sort of stuff. He is barely able to pack his own bag. Two years of training and he just manages it. The others could help the youngest but it is more to control the kids while the dad (who works from home) works. Soon as a parent is at home all my hard work and training goes out the window.

Just told the dad how pissed off I was. I think he feels bad. Good.

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looneytune · 17/12/2010 12:07

Oh you poor thing, that's bang out of order. I was going say was Nannynick said but he beat me to it!! If the only reason you're going along with it is for the kids then just say you'll turn up for the meal. Selfish boss!!!

Oh and star - I think it was unfair on that other thread and I wouldn't feel bad saying anything as how can anyone comment on such threads and know both sides?! We can only comment on what we've been told and that's what I'm doing here, I'm not changing because of what one person might think

Flisspaps · 17/12/2010 12:14

I'd tell her you're not going in, but that you will come and have the meal with the children as you don't want to upset them.

Blondeshavemorefun · 17/12/2010 12:25

That sucks :(

I would go in for the meal and that's it

It's your families incompetence and she is trying it on to make you feel guilty - and seems to be working

You handed your notice in and have in black and White in letter and diary the date if your last day

As dad works from home he can pack and look after the dc and you arrive at lunchtime or teatime for the meal and then go

annh · 17/12/2010 13:43

I was going to suggest exactly the same as Nick! In fact, wouldn't it spoil the surprise if you were there during dinner preparations ?!

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HowsTheSerenity · 17/12/2010 15:14

Would be nice but thses parents are the most unorganised people in the world. The kids would go tot he USA naked if I left them too it.

Silly silly me. I better get a bonus.

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MJB66 · 17/12/2010 18:08

Triple time, then double it then, he He He,

Oh and a Pandora braclet would be nice as a leaving/xmas prezzie, Hint like mad to the kids.....

Mind you if the snow is really bad in your neck of the woods........
as much as you love the kids, you might just not be able to make it?

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