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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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OK, I don't expcet sympathy , just want to rant

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Saltire · 02/12/2010 07:25

Was planning on tkaing the 2 mindees to village Christmas fayre today, and last night when their mum got back finally after being stranded on her shopping trip, she said "oh me and x (the mindees dad, her DH) are going down there too"

Am feckin raging because both mindees have major tantrums when they see their mum or dad when they are with me, and now I am going to have to manage their tantrums, in the realtively small confines of the village hall, whilst their parents wander round happily, and ignoring their children completely.

On Tuesday I had them for a few hours and I ended up having to shut the blinds and curtains and had the older one screaming for an hour because he could see his mum and dad outside on the street building a snowman and having a snowball fight with each other, from the living room window and kicked off wnating to join them

I just want to moan and get this off my chest since I have no colleagues to moan too

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Saltire · 03/12/2010 14:08

blondes because mindee 2 is only 1 year old and can't walk.
Mindee 2 was sent round with trainers, no wellies or boots plus if we'd gone out his mum would have said "oh you need to go back to saltire, she's looking after you today" or "stop crying because you fell int eh snow, go and see saltire". Or "ask Saltire to build you a snowman she's got you today"

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StarExpat · 03/12/2010 14:19

So they have a DD who they spend time with but not their DS's?

ShanahansRevenge · 03/12/2010 14:28

How can mindee fall in the snow if he can't walk?

He's a baby then isn't he? How can he not walk and yet fall over in the snow?

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Saltire · 03/12/2010 14:48

Sorry, it should read mindee 2 is only 1 year old and can't walk. All the other stuff about falling over etc should say mindee1 he's 3

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Blondeshavemorefun · 03/12/2010 14:50

then bung toddler in buggy wrapped up and go outside and play in the snow for 30mins

thats what i do with my 3

Blondeshavemorefun · 03/12/2010 14:51

not surprised 3yr was upset,seeing his parents out having fun but not allowed to join in

should think any child would be tbh

looneytune · 03/12/2010 16:35

I'd be looking more at the comments about what parents would say than why Saltire didn't take them out tbh. You imagine how a child would feel being rejected and told to speak to the CM as they're the ones looking after them today :(

Blondeshavemorefun · 03/12/2010 16:36

are there really parents like that about?

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Saltire · 03/12/2010 17:38

Blondes - can't even get buggy down garden path, never mind out onto the street

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Blondeshavemorefun · 03/12/2010 17:46

lol i can understand that

'looks at snowed in car'

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Saltire · 07/12/2010 08:03

DH as jsut said "do you have mindees today as camp is shut down again today and no one is owrking so their mum will be off probably all week again"

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ChippingIn · 11/12/2010 19:33

Saltire - I don't know how you do it, but considering how shit these parents are, I'm glad for the kids sake you do x

I can understand parents still dropping the kids off at the CM's if they want to shop/meet friends/MN/sleep - but how sad is it that they would play out in the snow where they know their children can see them :(

minimathsmouse · 11/12/2010 19:52

Why is shopping and mumsnet more important than children?

I am not as patient or as reasonable. I would have wrapped the kids up and took them back to their parents. I would then have told the parents "your children would like to spend time having fun with you, when you need to work bring them back"

ChippingIn · 11/12/2010 23:09

Mini - who said shopping/MN were more important than children?

It is not up to you a childminder to dictate what parents do when they have paid you to mind their children

HoHoHoHoopsAndBaby · 12/12/2010 00:11

ChippingIn it is when the kids get upset and the childminder has to deal with the trantrums surely?

ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 02:39

HO HO HO did you read my previous comments or did you just jump into the thread and only read my last comment

HoHoHoHoopsAndBaby · 12/12/2010 10:52

yes i did, i have read the whole thread, I have been reading a lot of the dramas Saltire have with these parents and I think she has the patience of a saint, but after what she puts up with, this is the last straw, she shouldn't have to deal with tantrums caused by these fuckwit parents.....whether they have paid for her services or not........

ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 13:18

HOHOHO

I agree with you - Saltire shouldn't have to deal with tantrums cause by the parents and she doesn't, she could give them notice, BUT I am very glad that for the childrens' sake she doesn't (give them notice) - she is (sadly) probably the most stable and loving person in their lives.

Several other posters had said they felt bad still taking the kids to a childminder if they weren't working but wanted to do something else (shopping, MN, sleep, lunch with friends), or if they were working but saw the kids when they were out and about and I said that I respected their rights to do that, but it was sad that the parents (of Saltire's mindees) play in the snow outside where they can be seen.

Mini then took my post right out of context and said 'Why is shopping and mumsnet more important than children?' Which was not what I said, I said the parent has a right to do what they want if they are paying a childminder to look after their children (ie they don't have to be working to use a childminder), I never said it was OK to play where your children can see you FGS.

looneytune · 12/12/2010 13:41

I totally agree with you (I'm a CM). It's non of our business what the parents are doing, it's only Saltire's situation I don't agree with! I have and have had mindees who come for other reasons than both parents working. So what? It's a contract and that's all that should matter to me as long as the children are treated how they should be and not neglected etc. I think this family Saltire's having problems with is appauling!

ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 17:30

Me too - it's very sad to see children so sidelined by their parents. It's crap for Saltire to know they are like this and to have them rub her & the childrens faces in it - but as I said, I am so pleased that she does keep taking them and doesn't give them notice - the kids need all the love & stability she can give them.

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Saltire · 12/12/2010 22:36

You lot are right - its the fact that I know these little mindees get stabiliy from me that keeps me taking them.

Dh, and one or 2 other people have used the word "neglect" in the same sentence as these children's names recently

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Mum2Luke · 16/12/2010 12:29

Getting really fed up of waiting for parents to bring money!!! Do they think we cms do nothing all day? Have got a tots party 2moz am to get food for and a football team party to buy food for too.

Half my day has gone now, wanted to go before I pick kids up as I won't have time later. GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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