Nanny tax code question

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Hello
I am about to take on a nanny who will work for us 2 days per week. She already has a job with another family for 3 days per week. She stated she would like £8 per hour net.
I've worked out that the other family will be paying around £8.90 per hour gross (not including employers NI) as they will be using the 647L tax code.
This means we will have to use the BR tax code and pay a lot more tax. They are not willing to share the tax code ( I have asked).
Am I being unreasonable to offer the nanny £8.90 per hour gross given that because of the tax code she will be receiving less than £8 per hour take home pay?
What would you do?

I have two jobs but the tax code isn't shared, which can be complicated. Instead one family has standing order to the other each month to share the personal allowance. Would they consider this?

You can offer what you like and you have good reasons to make a lower offer but then it's down to the nanny to accept, decline or try to negotiate. What do you think she would do? it seems quite a lot different to what she wanted.

Always best to agree a Gross salary. £10 gross is probably the figure they would have in mind, if wanting £8 net. Negotiate though... see what they will accept. Don't agree a Net salary as you may well be using BR tax code.

I'd say that you're prepared to match the gross salary she has in her other job. Agree don't accept a net salary that you convert to gross yourself - settle on a gross salary that's acceptable to you both.

thanks all