Quick, only have 7.5 minutes

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Is what I am going to write unreasonable or not. Dh thinks it is

Have got chronic toucher mindee, result is that we ahve had to move the bookcase and display unit into dining room.

Now though, it appears he is a chronic climber too , so I think that the bookcase, display unit and everything on them should be moved into garage . That would mean us being left with 2 sofas, tv unit, ding table 4 chairs and computer desk(only reason it's not being moved is because it's too heavy)

DH is furious about this and says it's our house and whilst he appreciates that I work from home looking after children, it is still where we live and we shouldn't look like we are int eh throws of moving becasue of an 11 month old. He says we should move bookcase and unit back into living room.

You need to do a risk assessment of your furniture. Does it have the risk of falling on them for example? can it be attached to the wall?

Apart from that try distracting the child with other things or telling them not to do the things you don't to be done and bring mindee out of the way. The mindee eventually get the idea that it is not to be touch and won't want to touch it if there is other things to play with.

You might need to rethink of where things are put. a bit higher maybe.. part of the risk assessment.

Let us know how it goes.

The furniture was attached to the wall,and was empty, he was using it as a ladder.

ok deffinatly distraction then and being firm when he tries it again. They do learn what is acceptable as long as you are consistent.

"They do learn what is acceptable as long as you are consistent".

Do they? it seems these 2 don't. But then whatever I do here goes out the window when they get home

Distraction isn't a word that features in mindees vocabulary. He thinks NO doesn't apply to him. On one occasion i removed him/distracted him 18 times from the same thing and yet he still went back

Could you provide something / somewhere where they can climb while being firm about what is unacceptable?

Not indoors, and it's not both mindees, jsut the oyunger of the 2.

I need to go as he has had 9 minutes sleep not his usual 7.5 minutes. Not bad for a child who's been up since 4am

kids need to learn no and keep on saying&removing from situation and they WILL learn

you will also go grey

agree with dh, your home furniture shouldnt be moved

Also it might help to talk to the parents/carers about it. Work out together a consistent aproach. Find what works or doesn't work at home.

It may take some time but don't give up on it. As long as your in agreement with the parent things will get easier.... eventually.