nanny share - ds starting school - splitting costs

[testbunny]

hi.

i have a nanny share. my ds (who is at nursery 3 afternoon's a week at the moment) is starting school next year. he will obviously not be around as much in the day as he has been. what is the done thing about how us and the other family split the nanny's salary in this situation? do we sit down and re-work how much each family pay?

fyi. the nanny will still have to 18 month old girls to look after in the day.

thanks

Is either of the 18 month old girls yours?

I think it will be very difficult to split the costs any further than you already have done. Your son will still have a lot of holiday time, INSET days etc and presumably nanny will have to look after him if he is ill. Many families end up paying for a full-time nanny even once their children start school to cover all these eventualities. If you end up paying less, the other family may not be able to afford the nanny share any longer so you risk having to look for alternative care and may well find that just having to pay for sole after-school care will be more expensive than your share costs. Definitely, if one of the 18 month olds is yours, I would not try to renegotiate.

if one of the 18m is yours i agree about not renegotiating

while youR DS may be looked after for a few less hours in term time, their DC will have to do his school runs etc so swings and roundabouts

How have you currently split the salary?

Whose house is being used for childcare would make a difference perhaps, though it could be argued that the person whose house isn't being used is being inconvenienced by having to take/collect their child/children (much harder for them to leave them in bed in their PJs).

If both families are happy with the current arrangement... is it really worth changing?

I agree with the others, your circumstances have changed, the other family's haven't (assuming you both have an 18 month old). Why should they pay more for their one child because one of yours is around less?

Their child will now have to fit into your son's schedule of drop offs and pick ups five days a week, if you try and change things the other family may well decide it would be preferable to share with another family with one pre-schooler.

He will still need before/after school care, holiday care etc.

If you still have another child in the share I definitely wouldn't renegotiate. If you don't then yes, their children get increased attention during the day but they're also restricted by having to do school runs....

hi

thanks for all your advice. yes, one of the 18 months olds in the share is mine, and the share is at my house.

i will take your advice and not renegociate as would hate to lose the share and our lovely nanny.

x