Nanny didn't acknowledge bonus

[chandellina]

I gave our nanny £100 cash in a sealed card last week, to thank her for having worked for us for more than a year. Ok, it was actually more like 14 months by then but I told her I'd meant to thank her sooner, since we're very happy with her.

Now if someone gives you £100 shouldn't you at least say thanks? She didn't mention it when back at work this week.

weird she didnt say thnaks, did she def get the card and you def put cash in it?

reason i say this, is that my friend sent me a card with a note saying here is the deposit for a meal, yet no cheq - dappy cow forgot to put it in

yes I handed her the card and i KNOW i put the money in there. I had just assembled it and it felt "padded" as I gave it to her.
Of course now I'm worried that somehow the money didn't make it in but I don't see how that could have happened.

Maybe ask her if she treated herself to something nice with the bonus, then she'll have to acknowledge it without it seeming like you are asking her straight out if she got it.

maybe say to her, how are you going to spoil yourself/spend your well deserved bonus/make sure you spend your bonus on you and not bills etc?

and see what she says

think you need to be blunt here

or you will never know

does seem a bit VERY ungrateful

assuming she has opened the card and its not still in her bag forgotten

xp kelly :)

great minds :)

(smile)

crap i meant

Either she's ungrateful or embarrassed to mention it if you're sure you gave it to her.

I agree, ask and see what she says.

my worst fear is it's a sign of a guilty conscience or something - that she's looking for another job! (I'm pretty sure she's happy but she didn't ask for a pay rise after one year, which we had expected after earlier comments from her that she might be "underpaid.")

If she's Polish, do not dwell. We usually don't like to bother others and ourselves with expressing gratitude.

Next time just give her the money without wrapping an accept the thanks straightaway.

she's British and has always been very thankful in past for extra money!

then bite the bullet and say tonight - have you decided to treat yourself with your well earned bonus?

and see what she says

maybe she thought she siad thanks?

Maybe she's a bit put out or feeling unappreciated at waiting an extra two months for her end of year bonus? ...and is a hundred pounds what she would have been expecting? I have heard nannies around here talking about what seemed to me quite generous Xmas/Birthday/Holiday bonuses, so do you actually know what the going rate is around your way? If she was expecting a lot more, perhaps she's wondering what she did wrong?

sorry at "going rate" for a bonus. A bonus is a gift

well, I think it was a "bonus" for her. I gave her £200 at Christmas last year and she seemed pretty pleased with that. I will give her a similar amount again this year.
She works for us only three days a week, in a share with another family, so £100 is nearly half a week's pay (of our share).
i'm bad at asking after money but will have to try to find some way to bring it up, or just let it go as "one of those things."

I'd just let it go. Either she thought she thanked you already and didn't or she just lacks common courtesy/manners.

If she is actually unhappy with the amount and was expecting more so didn't say anything, then that's again - bad manners and just quite shocking behaviour.

Hopefully, she just thought she already said thank you.

Did she say thank you when you handed it to her? If it was "padded" as you describe then it would be obvious to both her and you that it had money of some sort in it and perhaps she thought her Thank You at that point in time was sufficient, which it should be, tbh.

Are you sure she wasn't embarrassed? I.was given a cash bonus and was so grateful but felt embarrassed......still can't remember if I said thanks

Wow having a nanny is expensive - if you're thinking about hiring one you obviously have to consider more than just the rates

can i be your nanny chandellina , £100 bonus , i'd be saying a huge thank you .

thanks for the feedback.
i'm sure she did say thank you when i handed it over, so maybe that was sufficient and this is much ado about nothing!
i think it's because she made such a big fuss over last year's christmas bonus, rang me up to thank me, etc., that i thought it strange.
have now determined to say nothing.

I gave my nanny a £500 (pre-tax) bonus last christmas and she didnt acknowledge it either. I thought at the time that it was really weird/ungrateful but now i know her better i realise that she had never had a bonus before and just didnt know what to say. Most of us would just say "thank you" but I would describe nanny as one of those people who suffers from foot in mouth syndrome/never quite says the right thing. Good plan to say nothing and just chalk it down to a weird mystery that will resolve itself at some point!

guess if she said thank you when you handed it over, then no need to say again iyswim