3 month review - nanny side.

[SuperNanny20]

In a few weeks probationary period will be over 12 weeks, then we have a meeting. I was just wondering what will be discussed?

I have a few issues and need a very clever person to help me word them in a way the family are not hurt by.

1. Grandma comes once a week - lovely grandma but not so lovely children - they are monsters when she is here and I am invisible. They see her at the weekend but she also likes to come in the week, plus its only one wee girl who is 1 as other girl is at school.

2. MB coming home early and hanging around with us. Makes my life hell. Excites the children before bath time ( who are then like sharks to bathe) DB is so cool as soon as he comes in, I brief him on the day - DAY OVER. Not sure how to say to MB as soon as she comes I go? After all the role was SoleCharge!

3. How much should I charge for NYE babysitting and NYD?

Thanks guys!

simply be truthful and say that its lovely when grandma comes and really nice that she sees her gc but you feel a bit useless and maybe you can finish early once your jobs are done and granny can have some alone time with her gc

say that if she comes home early that maybe she would like to bath her dc or that she comes home after you have bathed them as they get so excited

not that i wold ever bs on a nye, but i get asked many times every year and i always quote them double time £20ph and they are always ok with that, so i find a friend who is happy to work a nye and both are grateful :)

Thanks Blondes!

Half the trouble is I don't want to hurt anyones feelings and I know how she loves her mum coming to see them.

But yeah, maybe if I could do something else during that time. I was going to suggest cooking for the week but she could turn around and say to do it whilst DD naps.

I've decided to work NYE as I never go out anyway!

What other things should I say in the review?

What you feel has gone well.
What you feel isn't working.
Try to start and end on positive things.

So sorry - what does MB and DB and NYE and NYD mean?

mummy boss
daddy boss
new years eve
new years day

NYE double time at least! They don't need to know you don't plan to go out, and a lot can change - you might get invited to a fab celeb party

Review-wise didn't you have a few issues before that you wanted to iron out? It's a time to discuss what's going well, what's going not so well, what you think might benefit from being changed (present a problem and have the solution ready so they don't have to think about it) and to try to make a rough plan for the time until your next meeting so you know whether they need dentist appointments or immunisations, and also so next time you have some 'targets' to report back on IYSWIM? That way you're also one step ahead, which reduces the likelihood of unexpected things tripping you up and stressing you all out.

For the Grandma's visits I'd just say does she mind if you do nursery duties so you don't get in the way of Grandma's alone time with the child(ren).

When MB gets home use the same tactics you use to manage the DCs - give her 2 choices! 'shall you bath the children or shall I?', 'would you like to read a story to a or b while I bath the other?'. She obviously wants to spend time with her DC but surely she can see that it's making things more fraught. If that doesn't work suggest changing the routine so barytone is out the way and you can tidy up while she spends time with them.