CM CLUB: Christ its either famine or feast, what should i do?

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i was SO quite for so long and now i have 3 on monday, 2 on tuesday, 3 on wednesday, 3 on thursdays, one on friday and thats just thru day, not after schooly..i also have 3 more after schoolys wanting to come one day and now tonight a call for a 5 yr old after school till late (8pm) 3 days per week but full time/full days during schol hols and im torn...i have new baby starting this week, one new baby whos still settling, sibling just come back and old mindee due to re start in oct..all part time obv.

this family wanting 3 days after school till late were on phone ages, making me feel im their only life line and i said es fine and we'll meet to chat but i just dotn know..i hate saying no because iwas so quiet for so long, but 3 late nights and i have my own dd who wont get much undivided attention, then thu hols id still be working full time...i know i sound so ungrateful but im v.confused as i need to strike a happy balance but dont want to say no outright as this job is so hit and miss..tell me what to do girls

You're so busy now during the day, do you really want to work to 8pm. Its quite a commitment especially through the winter.

Talk to your family and think how it may impact on them? do you really need/want the extra money?

How old is your dd, will she be wanting to stay up later with you over the next year? how will she feel if the mindee is downstairs watching tv/playing while she is having a bath and going to bed.

It does depend on the 5 year old so you could always have a trial up till xmas, be open with the parents if you have doubts and keep them informed of how its going.

Oh and well done on being so busy, i'm sooooo quiet here!!!!

thanks ..dp is like me you never know if its right till you try and seems hesitant about lates and full time through hols as im already so busy i dont have time for anything else and need SA, nvq and normal house stuff just piling up already...i just dont like letting people down though!

Just remember not to let your own family down, because you are being careful of other families. Sounds like a long day to me. I wouldn't want to do it, because I love our family dinners and the chats we have while we eat. On the other hand, if you need the money and your family are happy, then go ahead. Just don't make yourself ill trying to keep everyone happy.

You aren't letting them down unless you have strung them along for ages.

If you go to Tescos & they don't have the sausages you want do you feel let down or do you go somewhere else

That's a bit blunt but realistically that's the deal

trust you to make it so simple for me katy ..i just hate saying no as you dont know whats round the corner and i know if anyone has to elave and ive said no, then ill kick myself as not so llong ago id have taken any hours as i was so quiet??..just dont know and just had another enquiry for full time 18 month old!..unbelievable!