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Paid childcare

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Working as a childminder and sending ds to nursery

7 replies

Severelypissedoff · 04/09/2010 22:28

Hi,
Just looking for advice/ opinions on my situation. I am a childminder and while I don't have any mindees during the day, I do before and after school. My dd started school in august and my ds(almost 3) will be entitled to 2.5 free hours a day at nursery from January.

I just feel so guilty about sending him to nursery when I'm at home! Isn't it kind of hypocritical too when I'm a childminder? I keep reminding myself it's only 2.5 hours a day and he's had me all to himself until now but still....

At the moment he goes to a playgroup two mornings a week for the same time but I don't seem to have a problem withthis?

Advice anyone?

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alarkaspree · 04/09/2010 22:31

Lots of stay at home parents send their children to nursery because they think the children will enjoy it, or they need a break, or both. If you think he'll have fun there's no need to feel guilty at all. If he doesn't enjoy it you can stop sending him.

PinkCanary · 05/09/2010 00:19

I was same. Felt guilty sending DD to nursery school while I was at home with other mindees. But it was the best time for her to gain a little independence, for both of us to have time apart, and to prepare her for 'big school'.

I did, however, immediatly become a Governor of the nursery school she went to. Did someone say control freak...

pippin26 · 05/09/2010 10:45

Why feel guilty? You do what you need to do for your child.

ForzaDelDestino · 05/09/2010 10:46

no don't feel bad

xoxcherylxox · 05/09/2010 11:59

i dont feel bad its part of their entitlement that every child gets why would you not want your child to get the same start to education that every else gets. dont feel bad he ll love the time apart from you.

leeloo1 · 05/09/2010 13:51

I'm planning to send DS to pre-school when he is entitled to the free hours. I feel that by then he'll be ready to enjoy a bit of independence and the new activities/environment that'll be on offer (away from mummy )!

Its a good idea to get them used to the big group setting prior to school and if they hate it then you can build the time up gradually or stop the sessions for a while. Seems win-win to me.

brazenhussy · 05/09/2010 20:29

I am a childminder and sent all my children to nursery when they were little.
I loved their nursery and wanted to seperate work and family life as much as poss

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