Do I tell 2.5yo DD that she won't be seeing her CM anymore?

[sapphireblue]

I posted this over in chat but thought I'd put it here as well.......

DD1 has been going to her CM twice a week (8 hours in total) for just over a year. She is now 2.5 and will be going to nursery in September....her last session with the CM is tomorrow. She knows she will be going to nursery (talked about it lots/bought her a book etc) and is looking forward to it. What she doesn't know is that she won't be seeing her beloved childminder any more

So my question is, do I tell her? And if so, what do I say? Any advice you can give me will be very much appreciated (pfb and I really don't want to do the wrong thing!)

You must tell her!
How can you not?!
Surely your CM will mention it to her.
Your CM may be upset, I know I get upset when children move on

Maybe you can tell her that you will pop in and see the cm in a few weeks.

my main thinking in terms of "how can you not" is that she really won't understand.........I don't think she will have any concept of never seeing anyone ever again IYSWIM. I don't think an emotional goodbye will be in any way helpful.

I am, however, coming round to the idea that I should mention it but try not to make a big deal out of it at the same time. The CM hasn't said anything because she knows I haven't.

Of course you must mention it! Are you going to get the CM a card and a present to say thank you? Perhaps your DD could draw a picture?

I would say something along the lines of the fact that she is not going to go to her CM anymore because she is a big girl and big girls go to nursery instead. And ask her to help choose the CM a present maybe? A plant or something? Also think making a card is a nice idea.

But it doesn't have to be never see her ever again - if you're not moving she may well bump into her in the park or something - we're always bumping into nursery staff or my CM when we're out and about (my DS goes to both)

My childminder sdtill sees her old kids - she sees them around, or they come and visit, or they socialise with the parents. She even waljks the dog (with my kids) for one family and visits their horses.
It's a change, not an ending

I am leaving my 2.9 year old charge and I have told him that he won't be seeing me any more but he will have lots of fun at his new nursery.

I would tell her as it is a major change to lose one of your carers at this age and with no warning or explanation.

thanks for the advice. Yes she's already made a card and helped me choose a present......she knows that they are for her childminder to say thank you.

DD is going to nursery in a couple of weeks. She's 3.5 and has been with her CM since 9mo.
I have bigged up the moving on to nursery aspects but not hidden the fact she won't be going to CMs again. When we got the present it was clear it was a goodbye present but I haven't said she won't see them again as I think she probably will. She doesn't seem to be overly bothered. It is the right time to be moving on for everyone I think.