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Childminding or nursery

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missj050790 · 23/07/2010 23:25

Hi just wanted some advice for were I can send my 17 month old son which is better and more suitable childminders or nursery thanks

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ChildrenAtHeart · 23/07/2010 23:29

Childminder - but as one I'm biased
I think you need to visit both & make a list of your priorities against the pros and cons of each.
Do you have any personal bias towards either?

Dysgu · 23/07/2010 23:46

I agree - you need to visit some and see how you feel. I am a big fan of childminders, particularly as they offer more of a 'home' environment.

DD1 started with a CM when she was just 7 months old and it became like her second home - still would be if the CM had not stopped working and DD1 still goes to hers to play!

The CM closing coincided with DD2 starting with her at the age of 8 months - not linked! - and we now have another great childminder.

However, I did have to look around and did visit some nurseries - one was very nice and I have recently recommended it to a friend. Had I wanted a nursery setting, that would have been the one. However, I still really wanted a childminder for several reasons, some of which may be relevant to you:

  • the home setting - it is organised but includes every day tasks, school runs etc.
  • the mix of children - different children attend on different days but there is a solid little group with whom my two have become very friendly and we see their parents around, they go to each other's parties, we meet at the park or at the coffee shop on the weekend.
  • the individual connection - although my childminder works with another one and an assistant, I get the feeling that they all know my girls individually and that my girls are never 'passed from pillar to post' (although not to say that happens in nurseries although the staffing does seem to change more)
  • happiness to deal with the pickiness of my children - DD1 is a VERY fussy eater and the CM gives her the same food (with added extras so she can try new things) every day she's there! I am not sure a nursery could be so obliging - also helped by the fact that DD1 is now only with CM for 2 days a week as she has 2 days at pre-school and one with my mum.
  • willingness to mix pre-school with childminder so DD1 (and eventually DD2) gets used to a range of settings.
  • the fact that, with 2 children, they can choose to spend time together. This was the 'biggie' when we had to find another childcare option as DD1 was just reaching pre-school age and would not have been in the same room as her baby sister (2.3 year gap) at all. There are enough other children at the childminder's that they often don't play together, but I like the fact that they CAN.

I do think you KNOW when it is right for your child - it feels right, regardless of anything others say, although both my childminders were recommended (the first set us up with the second!) and the nursery that was a close contender was recommended by a friend, so I do think word of mouth is useful.

Good luck.

ppeatfruit · 25/07/2010 19:23

IMO as an ex CM/nanny and EY teacher also mum of 3DCs there is no contest between a GOOD CM and an average nursery. DCs need consistency and emotional bonding which is difficult in nursery setting.

bigstripeytiger · 25/07/2010 19:42

I think it depends on the kind of setting that you are more comfortable with.
I preferred for my DDs to go to a nursery (though I made sure that it was a very good one with a low staff turnover).
This was because I much preferred the nursery envionment, and there were a good number of other children to play with.

I think that it is a good idea to look around and see what is available locally.

thebody · 26/07/2010 00:39

just read your post while I was planning my day tomorrow as a cm. how best to support one of my mindees to accept her new baby sister.. has been jealous and behaved badly as expected..

we started last week with talking about babies, I brought a new doll and cot for her to play with, reward stickers and liase closely with Mum, tomorrow as a reward for helping mum we are going on an all day picnic to her favourite park as a 'good girl treat'.

the choice is yours but not sure nursery staff stay awake late at night really trying to understand and support their children as individuals...... good luck in your choices though..

ppeatfruit · 26/07/2010 13:10

"I preferred the nursery environment" Surely bigstripey... the DCs are the most important aspect of the choice; are they happy? if so then you are lucky.

bigstripeytiger · 26/07/2010 13:15

Im not sure what you mean?
I felt that a nursery envionment would be better for my children than a childminder, after having looked around to see what the options are.
They are/were happy there - it is a very good nursery.

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