Do your mindees show off when their parents come to collect them?

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Sometimes the minded kids start showing off when their parents come to collect them.

Are you brave enough to still correct them if they do something that not acceptable infront of mum or dad? Especially if their parents make not move at all to correct them.

Over time I have had to tell a little one off infront of her mum as she was not behaving.

Any experiences...?

Yes they do

Yes I have - very often

I tell mindees off whether parents are their or not, treat them exactly the same, my house still my rules.

Parents are very appreciative, even had a couple of occassions when parents have rang me, passed phone to offending child for a talking too out of hours

They always say things like, why do they do what you say and not me and how do you get them to do this that or the other etc
My answer is always the same all children behave differently for other people, they know exactly what is allowed and what isn't, when I say NO I mean it and I don't change my mind, therefore theirs no point repeatedly asking etc

I sound reet meen but I'm not honest

Yes I have one mindee who shows off if ANYONE comes round. She will catch on at some point that I will not tolerate it.
I will also tell off children in front of parents - my house my rules.

I also have a 9yr old son who 'shows off' and gives it the big-i-am thinking mum won't do anything - the child has clicked yet that when those people go.......... the explosion happens........

they say we live and learn but these two children i have described seem to not be getting it!

As part of my induction process I discuss the handover period with parents. I tell them that it is a confusing time for children because they are unsure who is in charge and will therefore test the boundaries. I also tell them that I will expect their child to abide by my rules while still in my house and will enforce them if necessary.

If the child is old enough I have the same conversation with them in front of the parent the moment the need arises. It solves a lot of problems before they start.

The only problem I've had was when a parent went the other way and hit his small son hard in my hallway. It was then his behaviour that I had to address rather than the child's!

I know a CM who had one mindee whose behviour was so horrendous at pick up and whose parent did absolutely nothing to control the child you stopped letting the parent in and handed the child over at the doorway!

The child's behaviour was extreme and the parent didn't well parent tbh. Some of it involved trying to destroy the cm home!

Pippin - you just described my 5yr old son

Mindees fine at handover - though 11mth old newbie cries when he gets picked up!! Have had this in the past and, as has been said before, my house, my rules till they out of the front door! Have had the opposite though, where mindee turns into the devilchild when parent picks up - then parent cant believe it when I say they've been angelic all day, lol.

Thanks for that everyone.

Children will test the waters at times. It really does help when you have the parents support.

I have one mum who raises her voice very loudly when telling off her children when I hand them over to her. Sometimes the children may want you to do the same before they listen.

I will not hesitate to let the parents know if their children behaviour is not acceptable. Their may be things that they get away with at home but I do not allow.

Some of the kids may see us as spoiling their fun by not letting them do certain things ie running when you pick them up from school etc.