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SIL using unregistered childminder - what would you do?

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FrozenNorth · 19/07/2010 19:02

MIL dropped into conversation over the weekend that SIL has my niece placed with an unregistered childminder (cash in hand) for several days per week. MIL didn't seem too bothered (mainly, I assume, because in the days that MIL used to be a childminder herself Ofsted most definitely didn't exist).

I was a bit alarmed to hear this - as far as I can tell, this would mean that the childminder didn't have to have insurance, first aid training or a CRB. I don't get on with SIL too well so I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonably condemnatory because of this. I thought I'd run the situation past the folks here to get a clearer idea of what this means and if I can or should do anything further.

Thanks for any advice and sorry if I'm overreacting!

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Strix · 20/07/2010 14:46

Since it doesn't involve me or my children, I wouldn't say diddly squat on the matter. I know how my childcare costs keep me in financial ruin so I can certainly sympathise with anyone who is struggling to pay the childcare bill, and will not pass judgement.

FrameyMcFrame · 20/07/2010 14:55

my DS is looked after by DH's best friend's girlfriend. She used to be an au pair and a nanny but she's not currently registerd with ofstead. She looks after him here in our house. Is that ok, or should she still be registered? I keep asking her to look into it but she hasn't as yet.
SHe's training to be a teaching assistant at the mo so she's CRB cleared.

StarExpat · 20/07/2010 15:00

It wasn't about the cost! It cost me much more to have him with her than the cm. I couldn't use vouchers and it always seemed like I wasn't paying enough....so I'd end up financially totally devastated - Never do a long term arrangement like this with a friend... It gets messy like that! But, it was best for ds and I at the time so I don't regret it.

Not everyone chooses a less formal arrangement because of cost. Sometimes it's just better for your family.

pippin26 · 20/07/2010 15:37

Framey - your arrangement is ok, although I presume you are paying her NI and tax as her employer?

Strix · 20/07/2010 15:44

Well in that case I think you are crackers... but it's still none of my business.

StarExpat · 20/07/2010 16:13

It meant I could exclusively breastfeed my baby for 13 months. And he was with someone I completely trusted. Not crackers to me

spottedandstriped · 20/07/2010 16:37

I agree with many of the posters here, that if you aren't concerned with the childs welfare you should not get involved.

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