What was the best thing anyone did for you in the weeks after your delivery?

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My friend has just had what sounded like a pretty traumatic delivery of her DD - 2 weeks late, induction, lots of intervention ending up with an emergency CS, and is now really struggling with feeding and feeling pretty low.

I want to be able to help her as much as possible so was wondering what the things were that people did for you that you really appreciated following your births?

I was lucky to have v. straightforward homebirth so don't really know what to say to help her come to terms with her birth experience, any advice gratefully received.

I do remember LOVING anyone who came round bearing a big dish of shepherds pie/lasagne/double cream/all of the above so am planning on stocking up her fridge and freezer at regular intervals

One of the things I most needed in the first weeks after the birth was reassurance, from people who had been there, that it was perfectly normal to feel the way I was feeling - depressed, resentful that my life had been turned upside down and my body wrecked, and not really feeling much for my baby. I can't tell you how worried I was that I was always going to feel that way, so hearing from obviously loving mothers that they had been there too really helped me.

...and food - take lots of food