Okay ladies is this normal. be warned TMI.

[slushy06]

I had dd ten months ago, I had no stitches but multiple internal grazes. When I try to have intercourse it stings in the areas where the grazes were is it possible that the grazes have not fully healed. Or am I nervous and tensing causing stinging/burning sensation.

I also had the worst moment of my life after dd when the mw thought my cervix had torn so I had three HCP two with there hands reaching right up inside me and another putting all her weight on my belly so they could check where the bleeding was. This has made me scared of people touching inside because it was really painful so I tense up when touched there. I didn't feel like this after ds and I don't think I have any mental trauma as I enjoyed giving birth both times and consider them to be good experiences (apart from physical exam after birth).

I also had a allergic reaction and ended up with about 40 sores in that area just after giving birth could it be related to that.

I don't know much about grazing but I don't think its normal to still be in pain 10 months after birth. Did anyone check you were healing after the birth? Do you have any bleeding or discharge? It sounds to me like you need to go to your gp even if its just for reassurance to help you relax. I'm sure I spotted some midwives on here earlier so hopefully they will have better advice for you.

No I had no six week check, No smear they said they don't do the six week check if no stitches, and I will have my usual smear.

No bleeding but I lot of clear odorless water like discharge (sorry if TMI). I Went in about a week after birth and was examined by 3mw 2consultants and a registrar all saying something was wrong but unsure what, tried to get me a gyni appointment but was unable to as I had just had a baby and booked me in with a consultant who said quote ''You do some damage when giving birth you either tear and need lots of stitches or stretch beyond endurance, the only way to avoid damage is to have a csec'.

I have damaged the wall holding my bladder up too and he said just do some pelvic floors well I have and while it is better the wall still sags and I still have difficulty holding urine . However the consultant snapped last time that it was to be expected. So I went home mortified and it never stopped hurting it has got better but it still hurts.

OK. First off, I am sorry this has happened. Second; what the consultant says is simply not good enough. I would suggest asking for another referral. You poor old thing.

Ask for another referral to a different consultant

I had a small internal tear with dd1 that required no stitches but intercourse was painful (though it lessened) for approx two years after - until my next dd, in fact. When I mentioned this to mws and consultant, they told me it was normal and that I must be tensing up. Rubbish - it was just slow to heal and scar tissue is not particularly stretchy. I'm telling you this to give you hope that it might take longer than 10 months to feel OK. However, it sounds as though you have other issues that need to be considered and I would go back to the mw/consultant and ask for another look.

I had the same symptoms as you after my DS was delivered by the consultant dilating my cervic with his fingers, as I needed emergency CS but the operating theatres were all full.

I went into hospital for a repair op. The consultant said that the stinging was due to emdometrisis on the vaginal wall apparently it is quite common when you have been grazed and have a traumatic birth as the blood from delivery contains the stem cell that make the endometruim.

See your Dr again, good luck

Thanks ladies I came away and thought I was being a baby, and things were really hurting me that others did not notice .

I will make another appointment I don't think it will be the same as my gp told me that before 5months any problems go to obstetrics. But after go to gynecology.

Marjean Thanks you for telling me that I was starting to feel really depressed believing I would always be like this.

lynli Thank you it may be What you described I didn't have a traumatic birth but afterwords was not pleasant.

Hopefully I can get this sorted.

Slushy - you've had pretty callous treatment from medics It took a long time for my episiotomy wound to heal following the birth of my first dc (second one was born by c-section)-maybe longer than a year. I hope you are seen by a different gynae next time - you can request to be seen by someone else.

Thanks ladylush, How awful for your episiotomy to take so long to heal.

Sorry to hear about the lack of care - that consultant was very unprofessional to show such callous disregard for your symptoms.

I had a traumatic rotational forceps birth that left me with many internal and external tears and lacerations. I was rereferred to gynae at 6 months post birth for rechecking as I had dysparunia - painful when trying to have sex. The physio said it could be an undissolved stitch as she could feel a lump internally when she was testing my pelvic floor strength.

Saw the gynae consultant who couldn't feel anything but said the physio pushing on the area a couple of weeks before could have dealt with it if it was a stitch. It was less painful after that to have sex so something shifted.

I also got referred to urogynae as I had urge incontinence and no bladder control. With bladder retraining and a valve catheter for a week or so my bladder did recover to almost normal again over a period of 5 months.

Please do push them - it isn't good enough to tell you it's normal. Change is normal obviously, none of us expect the same body, but if function is impaired (whether sex or bladder) then it is a problem that needs medical attention. If you had suddenly started having these problems without having a child they would address them - it's ridiculous for anyone to suggest that once you choose to have a baby you are no longer worthy of the same medical support.