Baby 5 days old and I am crying all the time!

[Mystro]

Is this normal? I'm a mess. I'm sure I wasn't like this with my first. I'mvery anaemic and exhausted too, but I just can't seem to face the world. When will I feel normal again?

Yes, it's normal. I suffered from baby blues from days 5-8. I was crying at absolutely everything ie if baby cried I did, read a lovely message in a new baby card and burst into tears. For me it was totally out of character - I hardly cry so found it very hard.

When the midwife arrived for my check, she asked how I was and I burst into tears . She sympathised and said it was normal and felt my horror at crying but also ino front of a total stranger!

Most important - let the people closest to you know how you are feeling. It helped me to get through by talking to my DH and family. Though whenever my brother phoned and asked how I was I always burst into tears on him had to keep handing phone to DH.

My baby is now 6 weeks old and I can't believe now how intense I felt that first week.

HTH

Mystro please try very, very hard to get as much sleep as you can (I know, it can be so difficult) especially for the next few days. Don't let the teary-ness add to your worries - it is very normal, so just try to accept that it will be with you for a few days and then will pass.

If you aren't feeling a little better in a few days, and aren't feeling quite a lot better in a week, then you MUST talk to your HV or GP about how you are feeling - don't struggle on, and don't be fobbed off either if you feel somethings not right. You probably will feel much better soon though.

Its normal, its hormones doing what they do, you are recovering from birth and getting used to your new baby. Things will feel better soon. If you still feel like this in a week, seek support.

Do you have anybody to help you? Please ask for help, you need to look after yourself.

Hi mystro. Yes i would say that it is totally normal. Baby blues...
After i had DD i was fine and then after the euphoria wore off after the first couple of days i was a total mess, crying all the time. I was really really down but it does pass.
I just asked people to leave me alone until i felt better and i would let them know when i was up to visitors - this helped as i didnt put any pressure on myself to be full of the joys of spring and 'normal'
Also if you have any support, maybe ask someone to take baby out for a walk so you can have a nice soak in bath with a good book or magazine, then put on some clean pjs, works wonders.
Dont worry about housework or things like that, if you try and keep house generally tidyish, ie putting things away after youve finished, use every oppurtunity you get to nap or just have a lie down.
And there is nothing wrong with having a good cry, let it all out, dont bottle it up.
Oh and congratulations!
Take care of yourself and it will get better! X

Oh God, Day 5. Absolute pitts.

If things don't improve after a week though seek further help. Why don't you go to bed with baby and hibernate for the weekend and possibly monday too and get someone else to bring you food etc. take the baby away in between feeds etc etc.

It's just the baby blues. YOu'll feel better tomorrow. It was always day 4 for me.

Really normal, sounds like you got lucky first time if you didn't get it. Days 5 & 6 were the worst for me both times. Second time I thought it wasn't going to be as bad (easier birth, back home etc) and then Day 5 happened. I sobbed on both babies worried how badly I was letting them down. It should pass, if it doesn't do get the midwife/HV/GP to offer help. We get a PND check about 2-3 weeks after birth so by then I think they're looking for you to be coming out the other side or take more proactive action.

Congratulations on your little one, and don't worry.

It will be over soon.

Just be kind to yourself and rest when you can. I had this and it was over in a couple of days.

Congratulations on your new baby!
xx

where do you live sweetie? what about a post natal doula to help you a bit?
xxx

Mornal, normal, normal I cried because my (about 21 yo) BIL didn't offer to get the washing in. No, really. I was bloody inconsolable. I can still remember the feeling of absolute hopelessness.

Sleep as much as you can, get lots of iron rich stuff (dried apricots are good) roll with it, and it'll get easier soon.

Its normal - as others have said, its the baby blues. And the sleep deprivation and worrying about 2 DC wont be helping it. Be kind to yourself - sleep when and where you can, eat well and drink lots - and if all else fails, resort to chocolate. You'll be feeling better soon. And congratulations on your little one's safe arrival.

normal, i remember weeping away, and DP heard me on baby monitor and got worried

do nothing and rest up

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How are you doing now Mystro?

Its normal. . .i cried on day 7 and couldnt stop. . Hormones are all over the place. . .It will settle. . . .best wishes and good luck.

Totally normal. And low iron makes it ten times worse imo. Get thee (or send someone else) to the shops to buy a supplement called Spatone. It's an iron water supplement thing, about £7 for a month's supply.

It worked miracles for me after I lost a lot of blood at my birth. The day after I started taking it I felt loads better and less weepy.

Yes totally normal - I cried like a baby at day 5.

XX M

Hello everybody! I haven't been on-line for a week or so hence my non response! When I read the first replies to this post, they set me off crying even more, so I couldn't type (because they were so lovely and reassuring), and then I wasn't close to an internet connection for a bit. Anyway, thanks SO MUCH to everybody who replied. I have just got back from a week with my Mum, doing nothing very much and having all my food cooked for me, and my DD looked after so I could just sit on the sofa with DS, and I am feeling MUCH better now, thank goodness. In fact the really bad teary-ness had more or less gone by day seven, I think. It was a shock though, I had honestly thought on days 1 - 4 that things were fine. I blame the iron but also the drugs I was full of as a result of c-section. My DH says I was the same with DD! But I don't remember!

glad you are feeling better. i cried alot to and i'm sure kleenex tissues thought christmas had come early!

Good old Mums . Glad you're feeling better.