1st baby ELCS
Nearly 2 years on pregnant with second, currently 24 weeks. Have the option of another ELCS or try for a VBAC. Would like a VBAC as in so much pain with CS and slow, painful recovery last time and was in loads of pain when they pulled the baby out.
I have found a lovely doula who would support me all the way and who I really like. However, we're abroad, in the Middle East and the medical care is really not good. I am scared shitless of interventions and worry about something happening to the baby during the birth. I'm tossing and turning at night and can't make up my mind.
I don't trust my doctor to even make it on time to the delivery suite, nor do I trust the rest of the medical staff here. My doctor said she'll give me a trial labour but will give me an epidural in case I later need to be c-sectioned.
Now, I heard that if they give you an epidural you are more likely to have other interventions. I read it causes a chain reaction, i.e. if you have it, then you are x% likely to have a monitor, x% more likely to be strapped on your back, x% more likely to have ventouse or forceps.
I am adamant I don't want forceps. I'd rather have a CS.
Can you please make sense of my ramblings and tell me what you think? Am I foolish to go for a VBAC and hope there will be no interventions? Also, is my risk of tearing higher?