Panicking about c-section on Thursday and saying goodbye to DD

[kate76]

How has everyone else felt in the build up to an ELCS? I've got mine booked for this thursday (after an emergency c-section last time) and have got myself in a terrible state worrying about the operation and that something is going to go wrong, and also about the baby not being ok. I am dreading saying goodbye to the night before - I think I will be in floods of tears! I know I need to calm down a bit and that the chances are that both me and baby will be fine, but I can't stop fretting. Please can someone tell me how to relax for the next few days and to stop fretting!!

Please stop fretting. An elcs is nothing like an emergency one. And even most emergency ones can be fine - mine was. It will be very calm and relaxed and you really shouldn't be frightened.

Could you talk through it with a midwife or someone first? Will you have anyone there with you? I'm sure loads of people will be on to offer better advice soon.

All the best and relax, even just for your DD.

How you're feeling is perfectly normal, your hormones are going crazy and it is a huge emotional leap to leave your pfb, knowing you're going to come home with a sibling. I certainly felt weird in the couple of days before my elcs with dd2 and can't remember how I got through them except by trying to keep everything as normal as possible.

I don't know how to tell you to calm down except to say CALM DOWN The chances of everything not being OK for both you and the baby are minuscule, elcs are very safe. Good luck and congratulations in advance

thank you both!! I'm sure you're right than an elective is a very different experience from an emergency ceasarian. My DH will be there and he is wonderful - the most calm, relaxed person you could ever meet! He operates on the basis that when there's something to worry about, then we'll worry, not all this horrible 'what if, what if' kind of anxiety that I seem to torture myself with! I am trying not to tell him too much about how anxious I am he is so sweet and excited about it all.
I just want it to be over...there is nothing like the impatience of waiting for a new baby to arrive!

Kate, I started a similar thread last week, the evening before my ELCS. I too was very apprehensive, worried about the baby, the effect it would have on DD1 which I felt guilty about, things going wrong etc. I spent much of the day before worrying and weeping but no need.

Everything went very well and it was a very very positive experience giving us our beautiful DD2.
If I can help to reassure you or can answer any questions then feel free to CAT me and I will help if I can.

I used the hypnobirth cd's for a section which were great - due to my lo being brrech, we had 4 days to get used to the idea of a section rather than a lovely water birth.
However, the planned section was just fine and our little girl was well worth it. Good luck - focus on the outcome ( your new bundle of joy) and you'll be fine. Find some music and ask the hospital to play that - I found that really helped as it gave me something lovely to focus on

Kate76- I understand how you feel entirely. The night before my second cs I just took to my bed and cried. I think it didn't help that dd1 was being babysat at sil's so my house felt empty.

I am now getting my fourth c section on monday and have felt so emotional about it more so since yesterday. My neice is staying overnight the night before to watch my daughters in the morning (as have to be in hospital for 6am) and I feel that I don't want her here. I know this is so selfish but just want it to be my family. It will be the last night of just 'us'. I also feel it will be the last calm time I have and want to tell them how much I love them etc.

My youngest is 2.4 and I told her today that the baby was coming out etc.. She has asked me at least 12 times since if I was coming back home after the baby comes out. This has me in near hysterics everytime she says it. She told DH tonight it will be ok because Mummy will come home.

Occassionally though I want it over and done with as am fed up worrying about it all now.

My Dh also just looks at me when the tears start. I try to limit it to just 100 once a day.

We will be fine and the build up to it is the most anxious time.

Sorry to have rambled on. Should have started my own thread about this. Just wanted to let you know that someone else feels exactly the same as you.