First poster but long time lurker, so Hi!
I have had a pretty crap pregnancy - hyperemesis kicked in at 4 weeks, was signed off work for 3 months as a result, and as soon as that went the joy that is SPD arrived.
I am in absolute agony all the time - I can barely walk, I live only 5 minutes away from work but my husband is having to drive me there and back (or I work from home as often as I can), I can't sleep, I can hardly move, etc etc.
My midwife has arranged for me to see a consultant next week (I'll be 36+6)to discuss options for the birth, and I'm just looking for advice from people who have been there.
I know the general recommendation is that you don't need a c-section with SPD as there are some positions you can adopt however I've tried some of these, and I can't do them. Left lateral is the most common one mentioned, but when I lie on my side I can't even part my knees by an inch without being in absolute agony, so I don't think this would work for me. Water birth can't be relied on locally (short supply of pools in the hosital and no way to pre book) and I'm too far from hospital to risk a home birth.
I'm absolutely terrified of the long term damage that could be done to me by giving birth - I'm working myself up in to a real state about it to be honest. Everything I;ve read seems to suggest that while a good birth can be fine for SPD, if anything goes wrong then the damage can be long term/permenant.
I've also had a slightly awkward side effect of SPD, in that, I think because of the pain, everything downstairs has become much, much tighter. Not in a good way! We've tried perineal massage etc, however I physically can't bear it being done (and yes we are doing it right!) and so I think my chances of tearing (and pretty badly) or needing extra assistance eg forceps/ventouse are pretty darned high. Before anyone has a go, this is NOT about remaining ahem, fresh, or anything like that, but stirrups etc seem to be an extremely bad idea from everything I have read about SPD, and I think it's highly likely I would end up needing them. I also have a previously fractured coccyx which has started giving me a lot of pain again, and necause of it I'm supposed to avoid certain positions too, basically anything sitting or lying down.
Basically, I've thought about it a lot, and researched all the risks, and I really think I want to request an elcs. I know there are risks associated with this however I feel it would be better for me physically and mentally. I've had such a crap pregnancy I'm just not sure how much more I can cope with to be honest.
Have any of you had success requesting an ELCS for SPD, and if so can you tell me a bit about it? I should probably mention it's my first baby ( I had a miscarriage immediately before falling pregnant which probably isn't helping) and I'm located in Scotland if it makes a difference.