post forceps - could it be better next time?

[thirtysomething]

I have had two births - 1 ds which was easy up to second stage then just managed to avoid forceps after 2 and a hlaf hours' pushing after one final push (loads of stitches though!) then horrific second birth - dd's back against mine, prolonged second stage and final forceps and huge episiotomy - felt completely traumatised for two years after and still occasional throbbing pain which feels like bruising. Have now finally begun to consider a third pregnancy but am terrified of having to go through the same trauma - is there any way of making sure you can have a c-section? At the moment it's seriously putting me off although deep down I'd like another child....

I'm in a similar boat but I had an emergency C-section (GA & PPH) with my first, she was a big baby with a really big head, and a post-op infection for which I was re-admitted to hospital for 5 days. My second daughter was smaller but went into distress when I was 9cm so we were rushed to theatre for another emergency c-section and at the last minutes the consultant decided to go with high-rotational forceps (Episiotomy & PPH), the initial recovery was easy but I have had long term complications both pain and anatomical issues which will require corrective surgery, potentially a hysterectomy when I've finished having children. SO I'm pregnant again and my consultant has left it to me whether or not I want an elective c-section but neither way really went well for me and I have no idea what to do...any suggestions?