So after my very fast homebirth (before midwives arrives) they had a look and said I'd torn about an inch into the perinium, and they wrote 2nd degree.
I asked about stitches and the midwife said 'oh most people who homebirth just want to be left alone' but said she'd come back in a few hours and have a look.
She came back and I said I was getting worried it would heal too much to be stitched while she was gone, she said 'oh you want stitches?' (yes like I told her)
she goes 'well I'm finished for the day now if I do that I'll have to go away and make childcare arrangements and come back'
She had another look and told me 'oh it's only a little nic, it will heal naturally, we only stitch if we absolutely have to.
So she left.
I looked in the mirror and I'm split right down an inch or so like she said origonally.
I know it will heal, but it will heal open!
It's all bloody horrible and open, it looks like I have yet another set on hangy bits, it's awful!
The midwife last time (w/3yo) was nice enough to stitch me even though she admitted it was mostly cosmetic.
I hate this woman leaving me like this!
I'm so annoyed she couldn't be bothered so now I'm all left open and horrible. I'll never go near a man again, I'm not SO bothered now, but in future this come be quite depressing.
Is that it? and I can't get stitches now?
He's three days old.